gibsonguitarist Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 I'm dealing with a shy girl but I don't know if she likes me or not. Just about every time I talk to her she ask me how my day is or how I'm doing in general, and if I ask her how her day was, she answers and asks how mine was again. Whenever I talk to her in person she really quiet and her voice kind of goes from high to low, and she never looks me in the eye but she smiles when I start a conversation. When I'm walking toward her she kinda messes with her hair but I'm not sure if she's doing that in the moment or what. I've also noticed that she is really caring whenever I'm sick by offering advice on how to get better or asking if I took anything to feel better and so on. When I complement her, she kind of looks away and says thanks really quietly. I've noticed that her friends notice me a lot me when I pass them, and I think I seen her sister point at me and talk to her friends but there was a lot of people around. Whenever I pass her in the hall and say hi she smiles and waves at me. Lastly she gave me her number without me having to ask for it, and before we really started talking she would always try to start a conversation on facebook, and she pokes me back when I poke her on facebook. Oh and I forgot she texts me out of the blue after I don't talk to her for awhile asking if I'm OK. Please Help! Could she like me or is she just being nice??? SHY GIRLS ADVICE PLEASE!
MistaDynamic Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 I think for most they would say it's pretty obvious she likes you but she's shy. You're the man so you're going to have to make the first move.
Hules Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 (edited) Heya Gib, How long have you known this girl for? Do you know her very well? I'm currently dating a shy girl (and have dated others in the past) they are different from other girls thats for sure. From what you have described I would say she could be interested in you. Thing is shy girls will never come right out and say they like you, they certainly will never ask you out. So it can be hard to tell if they actually like you or not. My advice is if you like this girl. You already have her number start a conversation over her via text asking how she is etc. If she receptive and seems interested in talking with you. I suggest asking the following "hey <name here>, I really enjoy talking with you and would like to get to know you better and was wondering if you would like to get a coffee sometime this week? :)". The reason I suggest doing this over text rather than phone or in person is because if you do it in person or during a phone conversation she might freak out and say no because she feels pressured from been put on the spot. However if you ask her out via text that gives her time to think about it, usually when I've asked shy girls out it take them a few days to get back to me but most of them have said yes. Just don't bug her for a response and if she doesn't reply well thats her way of saying shes either to shy or not interested. Main thing with shy girls is building/earning their trust often they have a reason for been shy be it someone has hurt them in the past or they are insecure about something (looks, low self esteem etc). Number one thing never make fun of a shy girls shyness. They will hate you for it and will wall you out of their lives, often they are very sensitive and do not like the fact they are shy and wish they were not. Show that you are interested in her by talking about things she likes but offer some information about yourself so she can get to know you better as well (she might be to shy to ask questions herself). Hope this helps if you have any questions ill try my best to answer them. Final note shy girls usually take a lot longer to open up to you and you have to do a lot of work to win them over. Its often why they are overlooked by most guys because they are not "easy" but imo if you can earn their trust, most of the time they end up been awesome, caring, loving girlfriends. Edited March 31, 2011 by Hules
Author gibsonguitarist Posted March 31, 2011 Author Posted March 31, 2011 Heya Gib, How long have you known this girl for? Do you know her very well? I'm currently dating a shy girl (and have dated others in the past) they are different from other girls thats for sure. From what you have described I would say she could be interested in you. Thing is shy girls will never come right out and say they like you, they certainly will never ask you out. So it can be hard to tell if they actually like you or not. My advice is if you like this girl. You already have her number start a conversation over her via text asking how she is etc. If she receptive and seems interested in talking with you. I suggest asking the following "hey <name here>, I really enjoy talking with you and would like to get to know you better and was wondering if you would like to get a coffee sometime this week? :)". The reason I suggest doing this over text rather than phone or in person is because if you do it in person or during a phone conversation she might freak out and say no because she feels pressured from been put on the spot. However if you ask her out via text that gives her time to think about it, usually when I've asked shy girls out it take them a few days to get back to me but most of them have said yes. Just don't bug her for a response and if she doesn't reply well thats her way of saying shes either to shy or not interested. Main thing with shy girls is building/earning their trust often they have a reason for been shy be it someone has hurt them in the past or they are insecure about something (looks, low self esteem etc). Number one thing never make fun of a shy girls shyness. They will hate you for it and will wall you out of their lives, often they are very sensitive and do not like the fact they are shy and wish they were not. Show that you are interested in her by talking about things she likes but offer some information about yourself so she can get to know you better as well (she might be to shy to ask questions herself). Hope this helps if you have any questions ill try my best to answer them. Final note shy girls usually take a lot longer to open up to you and you have to do a lot of work to win them over. Its often why they are overlooked by most guys because they are not "easy" but imo if you can earn their trust, most of the time they end up been awesome, caring, loving girlfriends. Ive known her for a few years but we really never talked, because whenever I tried to talk to her she wouldnt talk at all and was nervous. Ive noticed that shes opening up more to me, as in saying that shes talking more in a conversation. Lastly she always gets a smile whenever I talk to her in person, not a grin but just a smile, and when a pass her in the hall and say hi she smiles and waves at me if this helps any.
Hules Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 Alright if thats the case dont ask her out.. yet. I would say send her a message on facebook, try talking about something you know she likes. Get to know her better once you have gotten to know her better, if she seems interested then ask her out. The reason I say do it over facebook is the same as my previous post she is probably to shy, nervous to talk to you in person at this point. Talking to her on facebook might make her more comfortable and thus more willing to open up.
Author gibsonguitarist Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 Alright if thats the case dont ask her out.. yet. I would say send her a message on facebook, try talking about something you know she likes. Get to know her better once you have gotten to know her better, if she seems interested then ask her out. The reason I say do it over facebook is the same as my previous post she is probably to shy, nervous to talk to you in person at this point. Talking to her on facebook might make her more comfortable and thus more willing to open up. That is really true! But she is talking more to me, before she would just say a few things but now shes starting to talk more than me. I think Ive caught her sneaking glances in history class just the other day, she was turning away when I would turn my head back. But im thinking what your thinking, talk some more and see where it goes.
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