hcromwell Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 I have been fighting HARD for my marriage the last 2 years. Wife not so much and she started us on this path by coming out after 15 years and saying she was unhappy. So last 2 years been an emotional roller coaster...me always trying to save the marriage...her not so much trying but enduring. I have my issues but i am very self aware and she is not. She wants a divorce but has done nothing to move the needle but make an appointment with a mediator for a consultation. She cannot afford a divorce and even if she could...she has made no plans for post divorce life. She make maybe 800 bucks a month which would not even give her enough for an apartment. Even with max child support(which i probably won't have to pay since we already agreed to split kids time)...she will be so broke. I had major financial issues 2 years ago but my self employment income pays all the family bills now. She has steadily been getting more and more vocal that she wants a divorce but i kept saying i didn't. But when she pushed me over the edge last week...i called her bluff and said lets tell the kids. I was thinking a reality check would hit her hard. Instead she takes kids to therapist and they had a daddy's a scumbag party. My kids were not buying it. If i am nothing else i am a great dad...almost anybody who knows me won't dispute that Thing is i am now so pissed at her ...and am sick of fighting a losing battle. I am thinking i should sign the mediation agreement...and put my half of the fees on the table...tell her she needs to figure out how to get the money too. I am 99% certain that she thinks life will just go on and nothing will change for her...because unless she won the lottery and didn't tell me...she has no means to support herself...and divorce in my state takes only 3 months...??? So anybody else just wake up one day...after years of trying ...and just say enough is enough
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