pinkstar Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 I am in LDR for along time....I have started to lose interest in him....I think we are different. sex is really important for him and made me sick...I can't take it any more...he asked me to send him a nude picture and it made me angry and we discussed, I asked him several times to see more in me not only as a woman...I never sent a naked picture of myself but he kept asking ..I want to break up...unfortunately I still like him, please advise.
creighton0123 Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 I am in LDR for along time....I have started to lose interest in him....I think we are different. sex is really important for him and made me sick...I can't take it any more...he asked me to send him a nude picture and it made me angry and we discussed, I asked him several times to see more in me not only as a woman...I never sent a naked picture of myself but he kept asking ..I want to break up...unfortunately I still like him, please advise. If you're losing interest in him, then yes. If you don't like him because he's too sexual, that's a little shaky. Everyone has their own, innate libido. Just because he is really sexual doesn't mean he is objectifying you. It simply means he is a really sexual person. If you're not comfortable sending him erotic pictures and he keeps asking after you say no, then by all means get rid of him. That's more of an issue of annoyance than one of feelings. Not sure why the request would make you angry, though. The real question to ask is whether he's being too pushy or your being too prude. That's not to lay judgment. Being prude is fine, but if he can't accept that he can't accept a part of who you are (reserved when it comes to physical matters).
HeavenOrHell Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Why did the sex make you sick? Doesn't sound usual for someone who likes/loves their partner. If you mean you got fed up with it as that's all he seemed interested in then you don't sound at all compatible, not if he doesn't want much more from you than sex, if that's how things are? There's nothing wrong with not being a very sexual person, (or with being one) but it does mean you're not compatible. I am in LDR for along time....I have started to lose interest in him....I think we are different. sex is really important for him and made me sick...I can't take it any more...he asked me to send him a nude picture and it made me angry and we discussed, I asked him several times to see more in me not only as a woman...I never sent a naked picture of myself but he kept asking ..I want to break up...unfortunately I still like him, please advise.
folieadeux Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 I think you answered your own question...you've already identified you're incompatible and that you're losing interest. That pretty much sums things up.
Author pinkstar Posted April 1, 2011 Author Posted April 1, 2011 Thanks for your advice...he's been pushy and kept saying "it's your fault you're sexy and wonderful.." he admits he's sexual...he's been pushy...it's not sex that made me sick...I am upset because he kept asking for naked picture ...and just don't understand why I still like him..do you think we are not compatible?
TokyoG33kyGal Posted April 1, 2011 Posted April 1, 2011 tell him, "baby please understand that i am not comfortable with sending naked pictures of myself because <insert reason here>. please respect that." then how about make on a compromise by sending "sexy" pictures of yourself (that do not require taking your clothes off or dressing skimpy).
Els Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Based on this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t219178/ , I think the OP should absolutely not send any naked pictures of herself to this guy. On the other hand, I have to question why she is even still with him.
rio Posted April 3, 2011 Posted April 3, 2011 Hi, i desperately need an adviced because i really dont know what to do.. I have a 8 years relationship..and 3 years from that part is LDR. One night i dont know but i cant sleep and i just feel that something is wrong... And then when i opened the facebook of my bf i found out that he is chatting with another girl..And of course Im a girl and i can if is this is a normal chat or theres something behind it..And then when i log in,in my yahoo messenger because thats what we use when where talking..i saw in the facebook that he immediately close tha chat box with that girl... I told my bf that i saw all of that..and he said that theres nothing to worry because it is just nothing and he loves me so much...and I asked him to erased her in his friends list,and he did but still im not contented. then i send a private message to that girl ( she will get married this coming May).. And i told her that i saw everything.. then she replied..I was so shocked because she told me that he likes because she was just carried away but it is just like that.. Then when i send that message to my bf he told me that "he didnt know that".. My bf 's hobby is biking and that girl too.. Everytime my bf had finished with his biking we always talk....But know i found out that he is not telling me everything like theres a time that,,that girl and him went for a bike ride..then i also found out that my bf was carrying the bike of that girl,when she got tired of biking.. I admit i told my bf that he flirting because in the first place before he starts his hobby.,i told him that i will support u with your hobby,but make sure theres no girls..and this happend..before when he told me that theres a girl that will joined them i just thought that maybe its ok even though i told him before.. And last last night thats the time that i found out that theres an instance that he was carrying her bike..although it is just like simple but im thingking why does he need to not tell me..and then when i told him he freaked out and cursing me.."and he told me that go look for other things maybe you can find something more because im the bad guy as u said" I felt so bad!!!Because ive been honest to him all the time even somtimes i know that he will get mad..and i also felt that is this my fault? that found out everything..i found out that your hiding somthing from me.. And the time that he cursing me i just told him that i cant take this anymore and lets have a break..then he said nothing till now..he never text..call or massage me..Am i wrong?
Author pinkstar Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 Based on this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t219178/ , I think the OP should absolutely not send any naked pictures of herself to this guy. On the other hand, I have to question why she is even still with him. How do you know he's the same guy? but he is ...I was not in touch with him for more than 15 months...then he came back to me . You are absolutely right..I should quit...Im not like before, I am not in love..just chatted with him some times, time made me forget when he turned to a jerk..then I read my last year post (when you asked me to read) and I remember, I really want to walk away this time....but I need advice how..
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