ashbee Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 do all men try to leave relationships (wether they be FWB, LTR etc) in good terms? or? if you're one of those who do, why? whats ur intention? if not, why not? i was in a fwb relationship, if u can even call it that and well it kinda just died.. we were both playing games, pretending that neither of us were interested in more. long story short, we lost touch for a month or two. I kinda gave up hope that id hear from him again and well i got a very unexpected msg from him the other day. He said something along the lines of hey not sure u remember me...that he was thinking and felt bad about last time. he said he was sorry and hope i was well. asked me how things were etc.... dont get me wrong i thought the msg was nice, and i appreciate that he initiated contact and apologised but i cant help but wonder.. why bother? you know? what was the point of that msg? things weren't even bad between us, we were/are still friends... and in all honesty, i didnt think he owed me an apology seeing as the last time we spoke or had contact he didnt say or do anything wrong, it was just awkward. awkward in that he seemed shy (as he always is around me) and well nervous... can anyone please help me get my head around this?
Author ashbee Posted March 31, 2011 Author Posted March 31, 2011 i think ive over analysed the message...now im confused...is the message i got sort of a 'goodbye'? or? is it a good sign that he initiated contact again and apologised?
xpaperxcutx Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Some people like to remain platonic friends after a " relationship" and others want to keep things open in case they ever need a drunken booty call. The former are for those who wishes to maintain a friendship, the latter, for those who want NSA at a the touch of a button. Usually FWBs are the latter. An open communication between you and him could eventually lead to you guys jumping each other's bones again sooner or later ( depending on your hormones and your alcohol level).
Author ashbee Posted March 31, 2011 Author Posted March 31, 2011 so i guess i shouldnt be too thrilled with his attempt at contact? i assume his stupid apology is not even genuine, because it doesnt mean anything more than a possible future hookup? but you wouldnt bother 'reconnecting' with someone unless you really wanted to right? so ill more than likely hear from him again right?
Author ashbee Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 did his msg warrant a reply? im really not sure if i made an ass of myself by replying?
andrew-bkk Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 did his msg warrant a reply? im really not sure if i made an ass of myself by replying? No, you didn't. I always try to leave things on good terms. What's wrong with that? Maybe a few months later (if I'm feeling bored or a bit drunk or a bit down) I might get in touch again. All friendly stuff. I guess it's all a part of moving on. But yeah -- the guy is gone and there's no need for you to reply.
Author ashbee Posted April 11, 2011 Author Posted April 11, 2011 my reply was pretty closed. i guess in a way..didnt warrant a response. its been 2 weeks since. his bday is coming up and seeing as we left things open for friendship would it be stupid of me to message him on his bday? how would that make me look? would that freak you guys out? or would you like the gesture? what could i say?
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