youaretheone Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 (edited) I have a wonderful girlfriend with many things that make her stand out but she is very insecure about herself and thinks that she has nothing special. We are in a relationship for one month and last time, she told me about all her insecurities: like how she is awkard with people, shy, weird, afraid, funny. I told her no one is perfect and she should focus more on her positive sides rather than being pessimistic about herself. Then I told her some unique things that I like about her and she seemed happy in the end. For example, she has a great natural talent at drawing and it would take me years to draw like her but she thinks that she sucks at it and it is nothing. When I tell her that she looks beautiful or I miss her, she is very happy but she responds like "Really?". What are some good ways to make her realize what she is good at and help her get over her insecurities? Edited March 31, 2011 by youaretheone
Hules Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Having been insecure when I was younger. I've come to realise it is something others cannot fix. It's something she will have to overcome herself, you cant fix her insecurities nor should you try too. That been said you can be supportive which it sounds like you are. Just tell her the things you like about her and that she makes you happy etc. Don't make fun of the things she insecure about or she will end up resenting you. Just be supportive but don't try to fix her.
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