wonderingminds Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Loveshack fam! I have a bit of a concern. There is this guy I met about two months ago, we talk everyday and he has seen me about twice. Well he told me had a girlfriend, and they have been together for 11 years, they live together, etc, no kids, but they are extremely close. When we talk, I notice he only talks to me when he is either at work, or directly when he gets off. We flirt ALOT and he has even went as far as asking for xxx pictures of me. (confused) While it feels like I am getting to know him, in the back of mind I am thinking am i just someone to get his mind off of whatever his mind is on and he goes home to be with his woman and they live their life while I get called and text while he is not around her? Does he like me and maybe want to pursue something with me? I am gunshy around all of this and to me if a guy is talking to you everyday, that means he likes you. Am I wrong? What do you all think? Is he trying to make me the "other woman" or am I just entertainment or is he trying to pursue me? If he did not have interest in me, he would not talk to me everyday right?? Thank you in advance!
Woman In Blue Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 You're very obviously entertainment for him - along with some ego strokes and the 'kick' he gets out of having some excitement on the side. I think it's pretty obvious that you're side entertainment as he completely blows you off the minute he gets home to his girlfriend. Don't send this pig xxxxx pictures - he's just looking for a cheap thrill or spank material. Surely you'd like to be more to someone than just jerk-off material, no? You've put yourself in a very bad spot - you're investing feelings in someone who has no desire to have a relationship with you. Look at the ACTIONS, not the words. Words are CHEAP - he can say what he wants to lure you in but at the end of the day, he's still going home to HER. Back away or you're just setting yourself up to be used.
whichwayisup Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Loveshack fam! I have a bit of a concern. There is this guy I met about two months ago, we talk everyday and he has seen me about twice. Well he told me had a girlfriend, and they have been together for 11 years, they live together, etc, no kids, but they are extremely close. When we talk, I notice he only talks to me when he is either at work, or directly when he gets off. We flirt ALOT and he has even went as far as asking for xxx pictures of me. (confused) While it feels like I am getting to know him, in the back of mind I am thinking am i just someone to get his mind off of whatever his mind is on and he goes home to be with his woman and they live their life while I get called and text while he is not around her? Does he like me and maybe want to pursue something with me? I am gunshy around all of this and to me if a guy is talking to you everyday, that means he likes you. Am I wrong? What do you all think? Is he trying to make me the "other woman" or am I just entertainment or is he trying to pursue me? If he did not have interest in me, he would not talk to me everyday right?? Thank you in advance! Even if he is interested abit, so what? He has a common law wife. After 11 years of living together, they aren't just "boyfriend/girlfriend", they have a life together. DO you want this guy for yourself? Are you looking for an affair? To be his side dish? If he is giving off signals, chances are he's lookin for an affair or a fun ego stroke. Either way, does it matter? Why waste time, energy and thought him when you KNOW he's with someone? Seems pointless and also you'll be setting yourself up for a BIG hurt down the road if you do go after him/he pursues you.
jthorne Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 My guess would be that you are an ego boost, or something to alleviate some boredom, but that's not the appropriate question, IMO. The appropriate question is why are you interested in pursuing someone who is attached to someone else.
greengoddess Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 I think you know the answer to this or you would not be asking.
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