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Hey there, I am a 27 year old girl who has a huge crush on this older guy (late 40's) at my local apple store here in San Diego. He assisted me once with my iphone ( he's a specialist), ever since then I have been trying to get back to the store to if I could talk to him, but the times I have been back, either he is helping someone else one on one or he is not there. I think the people who work in the store they are starting to wonder why I keep coming in.

 

What do I do? Also would it be totally weird if I asked him to coffee while he was he is working?

 

Also, I googled his name, and there was an old profile that popped up from like 2001 that says he is married, but when I met him he was not wearing a wedding band. What should I think of this?

 

Please help I really like this guy and would love to get to know him.

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Just talk to him when he's in the store. Tell him the truth. I'm certain he'll be flattered whatever the outcome is...think about it - he's 40 and a young woman is into him. It'll make him happy no matter what, even if he is married. And if that's the case, then at least you tried and won't be left wondering.

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Hey there, I am a 27 year old girl who has a huge crush on this older guy (late 40's) at my local apple store here in San Diego. He assisted me once with my iphone ( he's a specialist), ever since then I have been trying to get back to the store to if I could talk to him, but the times I have been back, either he is helping someone else one on one or he is not there. I think the people who work in the store they are starting to wonder why I keep coming in.

 

What do I do? Also would it be totally weird if I asked him to coffee while he was he is working?

 

Also, I googled his name, and there was an old profile that popped up from like 2001 that says he is married, but when I met him he was not wearing a wedding band. What should I think of this?

 

Please help I really like this guy and would love to get to know him.

 

Wow how did you get his full name anyways? There may be a lot of other people with his name too. So maybe it's not the right guy. I know a lot of married men who are married but don't wear a ring. It's pretty common. However, if he is attractive, at that age, he is most probably married.

 

You can however, brave yourself up and go to the store again. Do not care about what others think if you really like him that much. If you're too scared to say something, write your name and contact number down on a piece of paper with something like "Call me". Go to him and give it to him.

 

Either that or just walk straight up to him and ask him "I wonder, if you're free for a cup of coffee later?"

 

Keep us updated on the result.

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I think I should get a job doing whatever he does.

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Just talk to him when he's in the store. Tell him the truth. I'm certain he'll be flattered whatever the outcome is...think about it - he's 40 and a young woman is into him. It'll make him happy no matter what, even if he is married. And if that's the case, then at least you tried and won't be left wondering.

 

 

Only if she was pretty hot looking.

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Lol, you are bordering stalking.

 

Also, I think you have daddy issues.

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I think I should get a job doing whatever he does.

 

LOL it's not the job that would attract the girl.

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Lol, you are bordering stalking.

 

Also, I think you have daddy issues.

 

How am I stalking? He gave me his business card and I looked up his name, its not like I sit outside his house and watch where he goes...

 

Also, I like older men, younger men bore me.

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Most girls are to shy to flat out ask a guy on a date. Your best be if you are this confident is to be flirty and say “we should go out some time.” He may be to scared to ask you out at work even if he is attracted. You could always finish it by asking for a paper (or having one with you) and saying “call me so we can go out” and then handing him your name and number on the paper with a “call me.”

 

Usually men have to pull the hard moves and face the fear of rejection, but if you like the guy this much and are brave enough to risk it then this would give you as good a shot as any.

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LOL it's not the job that would attract the girl.

 

Granted. It would be little old me.

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Most girls are to shy to flat out ask a guy on a date. Your best be if you are this confident is to be flirty and say “we should go out some time.” He may be to scared to ask you out at work even if he is attracted. You could always finish it by asking for a paper (or having one with you) and saying “call me so we can go out” and then handing him your name and number on the paper with a “call me.”

 

Usually men have to pull the hard moves and face the fear of rejection, but if you like the guy this much and are brave enough to risk it then this would give you as good a shot as any.

 

I've actually asked a lot of guys out before, and I usually get what I want. Its not the "asking out" that's so much the issue, its how I get his attention at work...

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Only if she was pretty hot looking.

 

I disagree - I think that a man in his late 40s would probably be flattered that a 27-year-old girl was interested in him even if he isn't interested in her. I am sure that if nothing else it would be a boost to his ego.

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Tell him you're having a problem figuring out something on your iphone and ask him would he mind going out for coffee to answer some of the questions and that you'll buy the coffee.

 

He'll know what you're doing of course, and will decide to play along or not.

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I disagree - I think that a man in his late 40s would probably be flattered that a 27-year-old girl was interested in him even if he isn't interested in her. I am sure that if nothing else it would be a boost to his ego.

 

 

I don't know...but sometimes people get hit on by men/women who are kinda creepy looking and it doesn't really flatter them. That's what I meant.

 

And I don't mean to say that the OP IS creepy looking.

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