Lilmisus Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Recently, I've been finding it very interesting hearing different people's perspectives on dating, especially guys. I've found that it's easy to talk to them about it. Ya know, just how they feel about dating, who they would or wouldn't date, how they treat their girlfriends, or what they feel went wrong in their relationships. Most of these guys I have zero interest in and are classified as only "friends" to me, but a couple of them I was interested in. One in particular, was a guy that I've had a little crush on for the past little while. We started talking about one thing, then that went to another, and before I knew it, we were talking about dating and who we wouldn't date. I told him that I didn't think I'd ever date another coworker again (we'll see ), and he told me that he wouldn't either. And apparently, he wouldn't date someone who we go to school with (especially in our class), and only will date older women. This of course, left me a little disappointed, since I did have a little crush going on there, but more than anything, it felt refreshing. I feel like I can now officially classify him as "friend" and close the door on him, and move on to the next guy I find interesting. But, do y'all try talking to others about dating (outside of LS)? How do you feel about it? Like I said, I find it interesting, even if I do get a little let down while talking to them.
somedude81 Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 I just got back in touch with an old crush (still stuck on her) and we've been emailing back and forth. The main thing we talk about now is dating. It feels really good to "talk" openly with her. When we were hanging out we never really talked seriously and the only dating topic we covered was that she didn't want to date me. And I didn't even get a reason. Everything feels much more open and free now that I can talk to her about the stuff that's really on my mind.
Cee Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 It hurts a little to talk to someone I have a crush on about dating. I have decided that it's better to get a male point of view about dating rather than have someone stroke my ego. But there are times when guys have said hurtful things. The up side is that when men talk about dating with me, I usually lose interest in them because I am not crazy about what they are saying.
Author Lilmisus Posted March 31, 2011 Author Posted March 31, 2011 It hurts a little to talk to someone I have a crush on about dating. I have decided that it's better to get a male point of view about dating rather than have someone stroke my ego. But there are times when guys have said hurtful things. The up side is that when men talk about dating with me, I usually lose interest in them because I am not crazy about what they are saying. I think it's absolutely great to talk to potential love interests or partners about how they feel about dating. You're right, sometimes guys can say something that make you lose interest in them, but it points out that you probably weren't going to be the best match anyway if you had different perspectives on dating. I didn't find out until about six months into my last relationship that him and I had way different views on dating, and I wish more than anything that I knew it in the first few dates, or before we even started dating. It was a blaring red flag that I chose to ignore. I tried to show him my perspective, and he respected it and went with it for a while, but it wasn't enough to change who he basically was and how he felt about it. I think that from now on, if I'm interested in anyone that I would like to get their dating perspective before I get too emotionally involved. Their point of view may hurt me a bit, but it'd be better than potentially wasting time with someone who isn't on the same page as you or would prefer to save my feelings by saying what I want to hear.
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