Capricorn1 Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 BG INFO: Okay, so my Ex and I broke up 10 days ago. We had been together for almost four months, then he says -over the phone- that he "still felt some connection between us, but it wasn't enough to stay together." Ouch. He then breaks up with me, both of us saying some rude things in the process, and I end the call. So, I cry about it for a little while, and then try and pick up the pieces. I was upset, but we had broken up 2 weeks prior and gotten back together at my own doing, so I partially saw this coming, but didn't want it to happen. I try not to say anything, but I'm so used to talking to him via text for a good part of the day, so I start to miss him and eventually make contact 3 days later. We talk normal for a while before I get into the whole "I wanted to try and work things out blah blah blah." Then he tells me "What's done is done, and I'm done." That hurt. I ended up backtracking and saying I wanted to be friends, and the conversation eventually dies. CURRENT HAPPENINGS: I haven't been in contact with him in a week, and now, all of a sudden he texted me two days ago, which isn't normal - he usually waits for me to make contact. He said "Hi how are you", and I just ignored it. Then, today he texts me again, saying "Hello Hannah" -fyi my name is Hannah-. I don't get WHY he's contacting me now. It's upsetting, and I don't want to hear from him when he's made it clear that he doesnt want to be with me. Sure, we might be able to be friends. MAYBE. But I just want to move on. Anyone know whats behind the recent messages?
Hopeless Girl Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 yep. my same story. almost 4 months. broken up for 12 days now. received a text las night from him but I didn't answer. just ignore him but when u see him around act like you cant give a less (but be nice). he's probably confused. some people when they tell you to move on its over, theyll do it in their own way, not everyone says the same thing. its like a way to keep the other person interested otherwise he would not be texting you or maybe he wants his shirt back . maybe hes probably confused. focus on you and your thing. let him be and if he misses you and wants to be with you HE'LL DO EVERYTHING TO ACHIEVE IT. just sit back and enjoy the ride. PS. DONT EXPECT HIM TO GET BACK TO YOU THOUGH AND IF YOU ARE DONT EXPECT IT TO BE IN A MONTH OR LESS
Fufu Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 "Okay, so my Ex and I broke up 10 days ago. We had been together for almost four months, then he says -over the phone- that he "still felt some connection between us, but it wasn't enough to stay together." Ouch. He then breaks up with me, both of us saying some rude things in the process, and I end the call." You may wish to read the bold words over and over again. He felt connection between you and him but don't want to be with you. Don't you find this is weird? if he wants to be with you, he will show firm actions and words he wants to be with you. He won't say things like - we can't be together at the moment - it's hard to be together for now - all these wasn't enough for us to stay together "We talk normal for a while before I get into the whole "I wanted to try and work things out blah blah blah." Then he tells me "What's done is done, and I'm done." That hurt. I ended up backtracking and saying I wanted to be friends, and the conversation eventually dies." First he said he felt connection between you and him, and after that he said this is OVER. He is definitely making you to be confused over what he is thinking and feeling. You can stop this confusion in your mind when you start not to analyze what he's saying. You are doing well not initiating any contacts with him and not replying to his messages. Keep it up. You don't have to know why he's contacting you, the reason is no longer a matter to you. Because the more you want to find out, the more you will stuck yourself in the confusing state. "MAYBE. But I just want to move on." You do want to move on and you said it yourself. Therefore do the things things that will help you to move on. Remain NC, and you will be fine, trust me
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