written in the stars Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Well, I've been in NC with my ex girl for a week now. It was LC for a couple months before this and during that time I was also texting her mom because her mom loves me and didnt want to see me go. Recently I explained to her that I couldn't talk to her anymore because her daughter had moved on and I can't force myself into her family if she doesn't want me there. She agreed but was really upset. Now today I wake up to a text message from her mom. What should I do? I've already explained to her that I can't talk to her but I don't want to ignore her cause ill feel like an ass.
Anna86 Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Well, thats a strange situation. Do you have any idea of her intentions? Does she want you guys to get back together? You don't owe her or her family ANYTHING!! Really, you don't need to text her. I am so confused as to why she is texting you?. I guess maybe text your ex and say that it is hard on you that her mom is texting you still. I know that is breaking NC but maybe it would be best to break it for this. I am sure she will have words with her.
TryTryAgain Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 I would simply state something like, "I really valued my time getting to know you and your family, so I know this sounds harsh, but please do not contact me. I need to heal and move forward with my life." I've never been faced with such a situation, so you probably want to let others chime in as well.
optimistgirl Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 A few questions... What did the mom say in the text? How long were you involved with her daughter?
Author written in the stars Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 Her daughter an I were in a relationship for a little over 3 years. We would talk about marriage and her parents would call me their son. The text said that she was thinking about me and still praying for me to get back together with her daughter, and asked when my birthday was.
optimistgirl Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 If you choose to ignore her text, you shouldn't feel guilty at all because you already explained to her that you had to cut contact with her and she's not respecting your personal space or boundaries. However, if you just have to respond, I would respond with something along the lines of what TryTryAgain wrote. You situation just reminded of something similar that happened with an ex of mine, except it was reversed! The guy actually kept in contact with my mom, would call her periodically and would stop by her house sometimes!!! Crazy, right? If you ask me, as a mom, she needs to take a few steps back...she shouldn't be involved in your breakup at all. That's between you and her daughter and she's probably trying to manipulate the situation.
Author written in the stars Posted March 31, 2011 Author Posted March 31, 2011 Thanks for the advice, I really appreciate it! I have just ignored the message. It pains me cause she's such a nice person but I think its better off in the long run.
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