Crazy Magnet Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 I met up with a guy a few weeks ago. We had a great conversation, etc. He said, "let's do this again" and we met up again last week. At the end of that he said the same thing. However, no next date has been set up yet. In the meantime though there is a LOT of emailing but never any talking on the phone or texting. The emails are extremely long, well-written, and very thoughtful. I actually don't mind the emailing vs. talking in person but I've never encountered this before. I tend to interpret it as low interest since he's not calling me or asking to see me more. He has a kid so perhaps there's a much longer screening period for potential women to date? A bit of context: He's mid to late thirties, divorced, young kid, introverted. Only day time dates so far. Is this really low interest or am I just being paranoid? Does emailing vs. calling really show how interested a guy might be?
chelle21689 Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Me and a guy were texting for a couple weeks before we even talked on the phone! I was wondering when we were going to...I was beginning to be worried maybe we couldn't hold a real conversation. I suggested texting because I was really shy and I feared awkward pauses. Then one day I just said, "I'd like to hear your voice for a change :)" and he agreed...sooo we called. First phone call was so awkward but we're good now after a few tries!! Talking on the phone is so much more personal
OliveOyl Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Maybe because he's divorced w/kid, his availability to meet for dates is low? A lot of divorced people have kids every other weekend, which might mean dating can only happen every two weeks, depending on work schedules, etc. Maybe he's waiting until he can invite you out on a proper evening date for the next time.
Lauriebell82 Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Maybe because he's divorced w/kid, his availability to meet for dates is low? A lot of divorced people have kids every other weekend, which might mean dating can only happen every two weeks, depending on work schedules, etc. Maybe he's waiting until he can invite you out on a proper evening date for the next time. This would be my thought as well. Some men are just not phone talkers, I know my husband hates talking on the phone. Also, since he is introverted, maybe he is less nervous and can talk more freely through email or with words written out then on the phone. Do you have his phone number? Maybe you could try calling him and see what happens? Or better yet, just ask him if he feels comfortable talking on the phone to you?
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