Author Shocking Pink Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 I forgot to add that once before he told me he was going to go for the divorce, we had had a few drinks and he asked me privately if it would have been us if my brother hadn't died, and, if we could be together if he wasn't married. He was a little drunk and kind of feeling sad and we never talked about it quite that straightforward again, but we have talked more and more since that day and the wall had gone down, we couldn't pretend it was still there.
greengoddess Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 I forgot to add that once before he told me he was going to go for the divorce, we had had a few drinks and he asked me privately if it would have been us if my brother hadn't died, and, if we could be together if he wasn't married. He was a little drunk and kind of feeling sad and we never talked about it quite that straightforward again, but we have talked more and more since that day and the wall had gone down, we couldn't pretend it was still there. I'm worried about you. I am afraid you and he are trying to capture the spirit of yoor brother with each other. You miss your brother so you want a connection with his best friend. He misses his best friend so he wants a connection with you his sister. Your brother would not approve of this affair. He would be very disappointed in how you two are handling this. Get honest with yourselves.
Author Shocking Pink Posted March 31, 2011 Author Posted March 31, 2011 Wow, okay... you never met my brother. Please don't think you know what he would or wouldn't have wanted or what would disappoint him. One thing I KNOW is my brother would be unhappy that his best friend got married to someone he didn't know or love because he was grieving and acting wild. He wouldn't want him to stay in a marriage that wasn't right for him forever. And "how we are handling it"? We don't touch, we don't talk bad about his wife. He is going to get a divorce and then hopefully we will date. Seriously, that's not so wrong. It's not perfect, but life isn't perfect! BTW trust me we know my brother is dead, it's been SIX YEARS. We miss him, sure, I will always miss him. I was interested in MM way before my brother died, and we have stayed close all this time, I've always had a connection with him!
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