SweetDaphne Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Last night I was watching TV when an older character was complaining to a younger character about their need for 'instant gratification' in their relationship. IE..the younger character was constantly in contact with their SO whether via phone, text, or online communication. The older character stated that this 'need for instant gratification is taking out all the mystery of dating. You're learning too much about each other, too fast, and leaving little mystery in your relationship to discover in the future.' After hearing him say this I realized he may be correct. I mean look at how much we've talked about the need for an immediate text response, or FB update, etc, etc, and how when it doesn't happen it bugs us and causes us to question our relationships. Are we growing into a society that needs instant gratification and is in essence removing all the 'mystery' out of our relationships too soon? If so, how do we prevent this from happening? How do we keep the mystery alive?
Ross PK Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Maybe for a lot of people, instant gratification is more enjoyable than mystery. I'm not really sure why a lot of people talk about instant gratification (not just to do with relationships), as a bad thing.
Pyro Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Are we growing into a society that needs instant gratification and is in essence removing all the 'mystery' out of our relationships too soon? If so, how do we prevent this from happening? How do we keep the mystery alive? Instant gratification has always been around and yes it takes away the 'mystery' and the desire. How do we prevent it? That is simple. Don't revolve every waking moment of the day and night to your relationship. Yes it should be the primary moment of your day, but don't forget about having time for friends, hobbies, etc. Make your SO miss you some.
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