Mid life Crisis a turn off for you?

March 30, 2011

There's this woman I went out with a couple of times a few years ago, an older mid 40's, very attractive woman. Body to die for.

She has a 20 year old daughter that's in college that goes real well in class, and also tends to brag that she's also a Hooter's waitress (I think she was implying that there's not too many Hooter's girls that do well in school or something, I dunno, lol...I think she just gets a kick out of the irony of it.)

Anyhow, I think she tries to live her life vicareously through her daughter or tries to act college aged.

I was out with a group of friends, and she has a few drinks in her, and there's this steet party going on.

Well, her male roomate has a beer in hand, and goes to sit on the parked Fire Engine step that's parked by the curb for a picture. This 45 year old takes her top off....exposing her purple bra and sits on his lap and her friend takes a picture of her. I was thinking, "Okay, that's mature and awkward"

Then a BIKE cop shows up and tells the male roomate to drop the drink, and hassles him, but NOT her (guess that's another post about how pretty women get off scott free or something, lol)

She splits, I couldn't even find her, so she ditches her roomate, and the guy is almost taken to jail for drunken disorderly or something (not sure why the cop hassled him.)

After the scene is over with, she just appears along with us.

She also goes to nightclubs with her daughter, so, even though fantasy-wise, it seems kinda hot seeing a "mother/daughter" thing going on, but would this be a turn off for you to see a woman (or man for that matter) of that age, acting like she's on Spring Break?

I think she's trying to be a "hiP' mom and cool like her daughter, more of a friend than a parent.

Perhaps any parents here can share some views of other parents that act in this manner? Would this be a turn off for you?

March 30, 2011

I can't see how it wouldn't be a turn-off for someone who was looking for a serious relationship, as the behavior strongly implies a lack of maturity. I can see someone being more accepting of that behavior if they were looking for a casual fling.

March 30, 2011

Turn-off. The pulling up of her shirt for a picture with her roommate makes her sound trashy and immature. If I would see a woman do that she'd get scrapped of my relationship material "list", whether she'd be young or old. (Note that I don't actually have such a list)

March 30, 2011

If you are into that stuff. I mean if you are out partying at 40 - I don't see how you can see anything wrong with this. However, if this doesn't fit your lifestyle ... fine.

March 30, 2011

If you are into that stuff. I mean if you are out partying at 40 - I don't see how you can see anything wrong with this. However, if this doesn't fit your lifestyle ... fine.

It's not that what she does is wrong in and by itself, it's what it implies about the woman's personality. When reading OP's post I got the idea she probably isn't entirely mentally stable, there's something off about her, her behavior is a reflection of that. And that could mean (potential) drama in the future.

Edited March 30, 2011 by Nexus One

March 30, 2011

It's not that what she does is wrong in and by itself, it's what it implies about the woman's personality. When reading that I got the idea she probably isn't entirely mentally stable.

No, I agree she may not be mentally stable. However, who am I to judge?

I know many guys her age who carry on like this (male equivalent) and would call her all types of names for carrying on this way. How is that far, really?

I agree it reeks drama but...

March 30, 2011

I know many guys her age who carry on like this (male equivalent) and would call her all types of names for carrying on this way. How is that far, really?

Can't say anything else about that other than that it is hypocrisy and a double standard on the side of those men.

March 30, 2011

Can't say anything else about that other than that it is hypocrisy and a double standard on the side of those men.

Agreed :-)

The op was obviously at the "scene" and agrees with the mom/daughter fantasy. Yet sees this as a mid life crisis - when this obviously this women life style. Sugar coat it how you want.