LostLove. Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 I met a girl who I'd met through friends years before. We hit it off and began the roller coaster ride of romance. She was my first real love relationship, and I was her's too. We we're together for 3 1/2 years. I followed her to a new town to stay together, and she moved away from me for work. There were complications along the way, but I always loved her, and think she always loved me. After around 10 months of long distance she broke up with me and told me "I don't need you anymore". It's been around 6 months since my darling left me. I can't stop thinking about her. I want her back and don't know what to do. I've tried to convince myself I just want to be friends but it's not true. Recently I've been getting stupidly drunk and doing things that are just outright ridiculous. What I want to know, is there any chance? How can I get back to talking to her on a real, personal level again and find out? How far can I go without becoming a creepy ex? Every time I see her face in pictures/facebook my mind is flooded with emotion and desire. I don't know what to do. Any advice you give would be great.
aisle_seat Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 You're torturing yourself. Stop looking at her fb page, get rid of all the pictures you have of her and don't contact or stalk her. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but someone cold enough to say "I don't need you anymore" is not going to love you and treat you like you deserve, even if she did want to get back together. If she did take you back, she would never respect you and how on earth could you trust her not to break your heart again. You can't make someone love you. Get involved in something that brings you joy for yourself. Give yourself the distance and detachment from her that only time will bring. Above all respect yourself enough to believe you have a lot to offer someone, and that someone must deserve you.
creighton0123 Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Move on. Everything that you're feeling towards her, you will inevitably feel towards someone else who will be lucky to have your dedication. There are no words to be said, no actions to be taken, and no plan to be followed to convince her to take you back. She broke up with you and made it clear that she was not interested in a relationship with you anymore. It sucks. It really does. But it is not the end of romance - only the beginning of new opportunities to meet someone who is capable and willing to have a mature, easy, and spectacular relationship with you.
folieadeux Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Don't really have much else to add...move on and stop torturing yourself by looking at things that remind you of your time together. She's moved on and so should you. It'll be difficult for awhile, but we all get through it and before you know it you'll have found someone even better.
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