interfuse Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 I'm curious if there's anyone who's dating or dated someone in the military. I met this really great guy from a small dating site that caters to our interests and we started talking through emails. At first I was like well he does live kind of far, but it doesn't hurt to talk. I thought well maybe I probably won't even like this guy in that way at all since I wasn't expecting to which is kind of a habit for me to like guys right away. He lives on the East coast and I live on the West, but he's deployed right now. We get along very well over emails and I can't believe how much we have in common. I mean I don't even know why I like this guy so quickly already. It's embarrassing and silly, I know, but he is great to talk to. I feel like I don't have to try to impress though which was a problem when I met most guys in the past. With this guy I feel like I can be myself when talking to him and not really worry what or what not I say to him. I think he's interested in getting to know me. He gave me all his contact info including FB and his phone number (which he can't use right now obviously). He always apologizes for not getting back to me and says he hopes I'm doing well. He also puts a lot of emoticons and smiley faces in the email which majority of them are the good kinds. So why am I worried? I'm not sure. I've never been with a military guy before. It's not that I don't want to, but the guys I happen to have dated weren't in it. I don't know what to expect and how limited the communication is. I'm genuinely interested in this guy and I would really like it if I could date him in the future. Is the contact extremely limited when the guy is deployed? I guess I worry way too much for my own good. I sometimes think that he doesn't email me back for days because maybe he lost interest in me, but I keep telling myself no. I guess I was right. So what should I expect? Umm... I'm actually going to visit the East coast this summer and he happens to get back around the same time I'll be there so it's pretty much a coincidence. I originally wanted to go there because I want to meet my friends and check out the area as I've never been to the East. I'm located in California. He and I agreed that it's kind of funny that we'll around the area the same time. I asked if he wanted to hang out or meet up. I think he read past my 1st email which I sent of the three and didn't answer me back. He just replied to my last email, the 3rd one. Was that a dumb move to ask if he wants to meet up? I was thinking of casually mentioning it again. I know he's busy and don't have to time to reply and talk so I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. At least he replies to me. Anyways please let me know what to and what not to expect with dating or talking to a guy who's in the military. Thanks!
sniffys Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 well my bf used to be, and i think they are not shallow people..they value life and time. really different from regular guys. although..there might be some that fool around..
Datura Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 (edited) well my bf used to be, and i think they are not shallow people..they value life and time. really different from regular guys. Not from my experience. Either way, you can't categorize a group and say they are one way or another. There are jerks and decent people in every line of work. Edited March 30, 2011 by Datura
bellabella Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 My fiance is in the British Army. It takes patience, understanding and trust to be a military girlfriend, as in any relationship, but more so for the military partners. They are away for long periods of time, either training or deployed, and when they're deployed you can't help but worry every day. I'm not sure about the US, but the Brits have very limited contact when they're deployed, I write many, many letters and send parcels! Everything has to be written in the diary in pencil as their plans change so much, it can be very frustrating!! It's also hard having to attend weddings etc alone when they're away. There are highs too, a man in uniform (lovely), the immense pride, the dinners and functions, the reunions. I wouldn't be without him for anything, even with the times apart.
Author interfuse Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 My fiance is in the British Army. It takes patience, understanding and trust to be a military girlfriend, as in any relationship, but more so for the military partners. They are away for long periods of time, either training or deployed, and when they're deployed you can't help but worry every day. I'm not sure about the US, but the Brits have very limited contact when they're deployed, I write many, many letters and send parcels! Everything has to be written in the diary in pencil as their plans change so much, it can be very frustrating!! It's also hard having to attend weddings etc alone when they're away. There are highs too, a man in uniform (lovely), the immense pride, the dinners and functions, the reunions. I wouldn't be without him for anything, even with the times apart. Thank you. Finally, a thought out response. This helps.
Author interfuse Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 well my bf used to be, and i think they are not shallow people..they value life and time. really different from regular guys. although..there might be some that fool around.. Thanks yeah I guess that's kind of a way to see it. I mean there are jerks all around no matter what circle it is.
bellabella Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Thank you. Finally, a thought out response. This helps. There is a UK forum called Rear Party (google it) for other halves and loved ones of people in the military, worth a browse to see how people cope and get on. I'm sure there must be a US equivalent too.
Author interfuse Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 Thanks. I checked it out. I will try to find a US one too.
Author interfuse Posted March 31, 2011 Author Posted March 31, 2011 Bump. Curious for more responses.
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