kiss_andmakeup Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 (edited) I've observed that some men have degrees of attraction - and I don't mean one person being more attractive than the other - I mean more like types. I.E. a difference between "I would bang her" attraction and "I would love to get to know her" attraction. Obviously you probably look for both in a mate but I've occasionally seen sleazy male acquaintances (note that I didn't say friends) take home women from clubs or parties that they'd probably swear they weren't even that attracted to. Opinions/insight on this? Edited March 30, 2011 by kiss_andmakeup
Ross PK Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 I've observed that some men have degrees of attraction - and I don't mean one person being more attractive than the other - I mean more like types. I.E. a difference between "I would bang her" attraction and "I would love to get to know her" attraction. Obviously you probably look for both in a mate but I've occasionally seen sleazy male acquaintances (note that I didn't say friends) take home women from clubs or parties that they'd probably swear they weren't even that attracted to. Opinions/insight on this? Personally, any girl I am attracted to, I would like to bang her all night. But there are some I wouldn't care about getting to know more, and others who I would like to get to know more.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Since it's just physical appearance I'm going off of alone, about 1/3rd of all the women I see are sexy to me. In South Florida, it's hard to be a one woman guy. :/
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Obviously you probably look for both in a mate but I've occasionally seen sleazy male acquaintances (note that I didn't say friends) take home women from clubs or parties that they'd probably swear they weren't even that attracted to. Opinions/insight on this? That has more to do with who she is vs. what she looks like. I doubt you will find many men who respect bed hoppers and easy girls. Within my age ranges I find about 30-40% of the females attractive.
Thedude22 Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 I.E. a difference between "I would bang her" attraction and "I would love to get to know her" attraction. Opinions/insight on this? Exactly. Honestly if I have sex with you before I even know your name, my attraction level is in reality, fairly low. I have the mentality of, "Ugh I don't think I can stand this person, might as well get some and never talk to them again" vs. "I really dig this girl, I don't want to mess it up with sex this early on, let's wait until the time is right because I enjoy being with her regardless.
ImAMac Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 It's probably around 20% for me. I find it hard to judge people based on physical attractiveness without knowing them. If I get to know you and your personality is beautiful, I become more emotionally and more physically attracted to you. If a girl isn't beautiful on the inside, her outside does nothing for me.
kiss_andmakeup Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Exactly. Honestly if I have sex with you before I even know your name, my attraction level is in reality, fairly low. I have the mentality of, "Ugh I don't think I can stand this person, might as well get some and never talk to them again" vs. "I really dig this girl, I don't want to mess it up with sex this early on, let's wait until the time is right because I enjoy being with her regardless. My boyfriend and I slept together on our first date. Of course he knew my name, and we had had conversations online as well as during the date and we melded well, but we were also very physically attracted to each other and when it came down to it we wanted to f*ck at the end of the night. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. We've been together for 3 years. Guess everyone's just different. :] I was speaking more from the perspective of men who take home and sleep with women who they claim they're not even attracted to on a physical level. But I guess that's pretty unusual and those men are just desperate and/or sleazy.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 It's probably around 20% for me. I find it hard to judge people based on physical attractiveness without knowing them. If I get to know you and your personality is beautiful, I become more emotionally and more physically attracted to you. If a girl isn't beautiful on the inside, her outside does nothing for me after I'm done ejaculating. I fixed your post for you bro.
somedude81 Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 lol. I'm calling bs on the 70%. I like that you are welcome to all races of women. So am I lol. They're too beautiful to only choose based on race. I don't believe for one second that you could possibly find 70% or more women attractive unless you are desperate. Also, even if you are open to other races, I bet you find certain races far more attractive than others. There are many overweight woman in the U.S., so 30% is probably not enough to rule out all of them. Don't forget guys, that I said women within 18-33. Most women don't start getting heavy till their late 30's. I would consider my dating population to be girls on my college campus. And I would gladly have sex with 7 out of every 10 girls I saw. Also most young women are cute. It's rare to see an ugly girl.
Fondue Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Really depends. Attractive enough for me just sleep with her once or twice: Probably 25%. Attractive enough for me to consider having a relationship and proud to be seen with them: around 10-15%.
EasyHeart Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 I've observed that some men have degrees of attraction - and I don't mean one person being more attractive than the other - I mean more like types. I.E. a difference between "I would bang her" attraction and "I would love to get to know her" attraction. Obviously you probably look for both in a mate but I've occasionally seen sleazy male acquaintances (note that I didn't say friends) take home women from clubs or parties that they'd probably swear they weren't even that attracted to. Opinions/insight on this?There are some men that will have sex with anyone having a vagina, in the same way that some women will sleep with anyone having a penis. I think this generally demonstrates some sort of psychological issue rather than actual attraction. As we've discussed several times on this forum, no one has a physical "need" for sex. I don't believe in "types", but I think some other men will disagree. I've dated all sorts of women. If you lined up all of the women I've been totally nuts about, I'd dare to find any way to fit them into a "type". But attraction is a balancing of many factors. The most typical example of this is that guys will put up with vary levels of crap from women: the prettier she is, the more crap we'll put up with. Hence, the ancient saying, "No matter how beautiful a woman she is, somewhere there's a guy who's tired of her crap."
TheLoneSock Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 My boyfriend and I slept together on our first date. Of course he knew my name, and we had had conversations online as well as during the date and we melded well, but we were also very physically attracted to each other and when it came down to it we wanted to f*ck at the end of the night. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. We've been together for 3 years. Guess everyone's just different. :] This is important too. Out of the two serious and long term relationships I have been in, both times we had sex on the first night. Funny too, because I've had several short term relationships where we waited anywhere from a week to two months to have sex - all failed very quickly. This is why I throw the "too soon for sex" belief right out the window.
somedude81 Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 As we've discussed several times on this forum, no one has a physical "need" for sex. True, no man will die without sex. But he might spiral into a depression or go into fits of rage or turn to the young and innocent to vent his frustrations. Look at all the men who post here about how they struggle with women. Tell me that they won't be happier if they were getting laid on a regular basis.
Mrlonelyone Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 @somedude. Let me understand this. You are a undergraduate on a college campus right? You are staying in the dorms? Are they coed? Let me give you a tip. Take a book, and go sit in one of the common area's that it must have... and study. While you are studying periodically scan the crowd and see if any women are looking your way. If so....just talk to them. At your age and in your station if they are over 18 they are fair game and 90% single. Even if they don't like you other women seeing you approach that particular woman will pique their interest. You already have so much to discuss. What teachers are jack@$$'s... why they have to nuke you with homework on Th or F day as if you don't need some time off. How horrible/ great the food is in the cafeteria... etc. I wish I was that age again. I could and did practically trip over lovers, and SO's without looking. They didn't all work out... but these things usually don't. that's life. I only want to help.
somedude81 Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Nope, I don't live in the dorms. I'm much older than you think I am. Though I do appreciate the tips.
Mrlonelyone Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Maybe you should then. When I lived in the dorms I had a roomate who was about 28 29... he found the woman he would end up getting married to there. It wasn't an easy road...but it can happen. An older man might have even more appeal to the young women there. Though I understand the whole thing can be daunting and like me, Ill bet you realize that such young women aren't really ready for what we would consider long term commitments. (As in many years not a few months.)
somedude81 Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Heh, I'm turning 30 in a few months. I really don't think I could be in the dorms. I've had my own apartment for a while now and have been in the school a couple of years. I don't have too much interest in anything long term. Dating for a few months would be absolutely perfect for me. I just want to get experience and know what it's like to be in a relationship.
waynesworld Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 I find between 10 and 20% of women physically attractive (from decent looking all the way to smokin' hot). I also find that my "assessment" of someone's physical attractiveness sometimes changes after I see them a few times.
fishtaco Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 I'd say maybe around 20%, from mildly attractive and up. However, that just means physically attractive. I've known women I find physically attractive, but will not date, because they are insane. Depending how insane they are, I may even turn down sex. Sometimes, it's just not worth it. I also have no problem having sex with women outside of that range. Generally, I think if a man doesn't find a woman hideous and repulsive, sex is usually good to go. But in practice there are many other considerations. Like for example, being co workers will steer me toward a no, regardless of what percentile she falls in. Ones that I would get into a long term relationship with... well, then that shrinks down to maybe 10%.
lino Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 Where I live, I'd say about 30 - 40% of the women I see in my age range (23 - 33) are physically very attractive. The % of those that also have an attractive personality is way smaller though, maybe less than 2%. They are also the ones who are never single.
Darren Taylor Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 About 20-25%. As for woman in my age range, probably 30-35%.
Ross PK Posted March 31, 2011 Posted March 31, 2011 As we've discussed several times on this forum, no one has a physical "need" for sex. It certainly feels like it, mental and physical. You may not die from the lack of it, but sex, and cuddling, is actually beneficial to your physical and psychological health, hence, the lack of it is must obviously be detrimental to your physical and psychological health.
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