EDET Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 It's a long story, to make it short I'll start from the end. I have a child with mOM, with whom I don't even have proper A. Can't go to total NC, as my work is very much related to his, also I am having hard time with NC. I was always attracted to him since I met him 6 yrs ago. That's why I let him to be a "friend with benefit" But it became very emotional for me especially after I became pregnant with his child. Now my life goes on its own, trying to concentrate on work and family, but always miss him. I just hope I will eventually get over him. Don't even know what else to say.
BB07 Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 It's a long story, to make it short I'll start from the end. I have a child with mOM, with whom I don't even have proper A. Can't go to total NC, as my work is very much related to his, also I am having hard time with NC. I was always attracted to him since I met him 6 yrs ago. That's why I let him to be a "friend with benefit" But it became very emotional for me especially after I became pregnant with his child. Now my life goes on its own, trying to concentrate on work and family, but always miss him. I just hope I will eventually get over him. Don't even know what else to say. I'm not clear on what you mean by "a proper affair", could you explain? Does he support your child? How old is your child? Does his wife know of the child? I'm sorry for all the questions but your post wasn't very clear on the details and of course if you don't feel comfortable answering that is fine also. I'm sure it's very lonely and hard having a child that is a constant reminder of you mm although children are a lot of joy and happiness also.
Author EDET Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 Our relationship was more or less one sided, I liked him as a man, but he treated me just as a friend or a colleague with whom he was comfortable with or even convenient. My child has only few months, his W doesn't know, and I don't need any support from him. He never came to see the child, even though we still are in contact.
BB07 Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Our relationship was more or less one sided, I liked him as a man, but he treated me just as a friend or a colleague with whom he was comfortable with or even convenient. My child has only few months, his W doesn't know, and I don't need any support from him. He never came to see the child, even though we still are in contact. I'm glad you've got friends and family to support you and that you don't require his monetary support. I would think that makes it less complicated when you get into a future relationship. As the baby gets older, you will probably feel more evened out as your hormones may not be back to normal yet. They say it takes a year.
Silly_Girl Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 It's a long story, to make it short I'll start from the end. I have a child with mOM, with whom I don't even have proper A. Can't go to total NC, as my work is very much related to his, also I am having hard time with NC. I was always attracted to him since I met him 6 yrs ago. That's why I let him to be a "friend with benefit" But it became very emotional for me especially after I became pregnant with his child. Now my life goes on its own, trying to concentrate on work and family, but always miss him. I just hope I will eventually get over him. Don't even know what else to say. Hey there. This sounds rotten How are YOU? Are you taking good care of yourself? Seeing friends? Do you have anyone you can talk to? It must be hard to put things behind you if you work with him. Will you always work with him or is this something that you could possibly change? Lots of questions too! I'm sorry. Welcome to LS.
Author EDET Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 I'm new to this forum, so my posts lack lots of details. I don't have anyone to talk to, so been talking pretty much to my diary. Thank god I don't need to see him daily as we don't work in same organization. But we are in same industry, where we have to talk 2-3 times a month. I never thought of having A with him, actually he initiated it, don't know even know why. I've been in many stages of pain, but now I just feel numb. Maybe I am over him, but still think of him daily.
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