Woggle Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Sure men like sex but it is really not that hard to get. A man can always hire a prostitute if he is that desperate or he can go to a bar and find somebody. It is not a major accomplishment to get laid. Getting a bunch of women to chase after you and desire you on the other hand is much more difficult. It is a boost to the ego and shows a man that he is desirable and of high status. Men want to be like him and women want a man that is desired by other women. Being able to pull out a book and call a woman up from a bunch of numbers makes a man the man amongst friends as is being seen with arm candy. It is not just about getting laid.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 It was never really about the sex to me. There's just a certain satisfaction I get out of having a team of women that I could call up whenever and have fun with. It just feels like I've won. I don't know at what, but it's a gratifying feeling. Sometimes it gets comical because you can get these women wrapped around your finger and have your way with them. That goes as far as setting something up then blowing them off, and they'll be totally okay with it because that's how far into their head you are. The manipulation factor used to get me off, I'm not gonna lie. But I think it's something people grow out of. Nowadays it's too much energy and time invested for me, as I'm putting those two things into other aspects of life. Plus the kind of women you get out of manipulation and etc, they tend to have things wrong with them ie. emotionally unstable, low self esteem, crazy, etc.. Not really looking for anything now, as I don't care, but if I had to pick between playing the field again or having a lovely woman who's company I enjoy and share feelings with, it'd probably be the latter. Even when I had a team, I'd see a guy with his beautiful GF and I couldn't help thinking "damn, that must be nice!" Everybody wants to be loved, no matter how many guys/girls they're sleeping with. I'm just not the one to love a chick who's loose lmao, and that's an argument for another day.
dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 It really does just seem to reinforce narcissistic tendencies.
Author Woggle Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 Sure. It's a mind f**k. It really is. I wouldn't want that lifestyle now but after my divorce it was exactly what I needed. It helped me to bring my confidence back and as messed up as this sounds it felt good to have women tripping over themselves to please me instead of it being the other way around. The pendulum swung back to a happy medium and I found a truly equal and mutually loving relationship but that whole experience gave me the self respect to never be under any thumbs in a relationship again.
Author Woggle Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 It really does just seem to reinforce narcissistic tendencies. To a point it does but that era in my life was the springboard for so many positive things. Was it a good or a bad thing? I say a little bit of both. I don't advocate it for anybody is a lifetime thing but right after a horrible relationship it can just what a person needs as long as they are honest about their intentions.
dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 To a point it does but that era in my life was the springboard for so many positive things. Was it a good or a bad thing? I say a little bit of both. I don't advocate it for anybody is a lifetime thing but right after a horrible relationship it can just what a person needs as long as they are honest about their intentions. Agreed, my comment was more about 'player theory' then 'applied playerism' . I think that the average doormat guy shod learn a little bit from players and vice versa so then they would have a middle ground. Doormat would gain confidence to talk to and date women while player would realize that they are human beings and not just objects of the week.
TouchedByViolet Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Sure. It's a mind f**k. If you can f**k a girl's mind she is going to want to f**k your body I have always been a drama free, respectful and simple man. Maybe that is my problem
Author Woggle Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 If you can f**k a girl's mind she is going to want to f**k your body I have always been a drama free, respectful and simple man. Maybe that is my problem That is not your problem. Your problem is applying it to the wrong woman. Every woman deserves basic human civility and respect as does any man for that matter but wait until she proves yourself to go that extra mile. My current wife proved herself and I went that extra mile for her but before that I simply had my fun with other women and I am sure they had fun with me.
TouchedByViolet Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 That is not your problem. Your problem is applying it to the wrong woman. Every woman deserves basic human civility and respect as does any man for that matter but wait until she proves yourself to go that extra mile. My current wife proved herself and I went that extra mile for her but before that I simply had my fun with other women and I am sure they had fun with me. Woggle I wasn't expecting a post like this from you... you have really improved a lot For a quality women, you are right.
alphamale Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 It is not a major accomplishment to get laid. depends on the guy It is not just about getting laid. its about power and getting laid
Art_Critic Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 its about power and getting laid The Thrill of Victory..
Darren Taylor Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 No doubt sex is on the agenda, but the main goal is to have control over women. I personally wouldn't want a bunch of women all over me. I dislike the attention and don't need the drama that comes along with it.
Author Woggle Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 I don't if power is the right word. I never abused any woman or had any desire to and I never got off on playing with them. It was more about the fact that I had many women dying to have a relationship with me and telling me I was the man as opposed to my ex who insulted me in every a way a man can be insulted. It was just a great pick me up after a horrible first marriage.
somedude81 Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 How does one step foot on that road? Is it something that can be learned, or can only certain with specific traits do it?
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 I doubt it can really be learned somedude. You really need either very good looks or confident, interesting personality with plenty of charisma. If you have both, you are golden. I aspired to be a female player when I went through the bitter stage. Not about sex at all, but about power of having many men pursuing me and me being completely emotionally detached. It actually worked, but most of those men only really wanted me for sex (not that I gave it to them).
Art_Critic Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Is it something that can be learned They can only be honed..
somedude81 Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Figured that it was nothing but a dream. Silly me for wanting to be desired.
Art_Critic Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Figured that it was nothing but a dream. Silly me for wanting to be desired. Why would you want to be desired as a player ?
somedude81 Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Woggle's OP pretty much says why. Why would a man not want to be a player? I'd rather be winning than be a loser.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 I agree with somedude. I'd like to be appreciated for who I am, not be hated for who I am not.
Art_Critic Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Woggle's OP pretty much says why. Why would a man not want to be a player? I'd rather be winning than be a loser. dude.. that sounds pitiful... Most men are not players and are still desired...
dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Yes it can be taught. You hardly need to be the cream of the crop to get girls. To get healthy girls with decent self-esteem you need to have that yourself. I think many players actually have low self-esteem, that's why they need the ego boost. Their happiness depends on having instead of connecting.
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