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Q: I've thought about giving OKCupid a try since I'm absolutely terrible at meeting people "in real life." Thing is, there are like...5 women on the site that I wouldn't want to see my profile. One of them is an ex-girlfriend, the others are girls I met IRL who I know use the site just as a joke/time-killer. Is there any way to block certain people before your picture up so they wouldn't know it's you? Silly question I know, but oh well. It's a concern of mine.

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Bumping for, well, my own sake!

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The simple thing to do is start an OKC profile without a picture. Then, you block the women. Then you put photos up.

 

It's not hard to do at all. Be patient and read the FAQs if you get confused.

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Alright, thanks. :) I wanted to make sure that was something I could actually do.

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Try plentyoffish.com I like it tons better than OKC. The latter does have a lot of people on it just wasting time. I've met a number of people off PoF who turned out to be awesome. One I'm still close friends with, and we met years ago. Just a recommendation :)

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From my experience the paid dating sites are better than the free ones. Way too many duds on the free ones. That's just from my experience though.

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Try plentyoffish.com I like it tons better than OKC. The latter does have a lot of people on it just wasting time. I've met a number of people off PoF who turned out to be awesome. One I'm still close friends with, and we met years ago. Just a recommendation :)

 

From my experience the paid dating sites are better than the free ones. Way too many duds on the free ones. That's just from my experience though.

 

My experience has been the opposite from both of these. I tried POF for like a week and just didn't find many "quality" women on them. OKC has it's share of garbage but the UI and website was better designed, plus I found it fun to answer questions and see how other people answered them.

 

As for paid vs free.....I was on match.com for a year and none of my 20+ dates resulted in a relationship. But I only dated 5 from OKC in a matter of 6 months and I found an awesome girlfriend.

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My experience with OKC has been pretty good, like with any site you need to weed out the people who are not serious about it. Easy ways to do this are once you have started a rapport, ask them what they are looking for in a relationship and why they joined the site.

 

Every girl who replied to this question with some variation of "I don't know" or avoided the question, later turned out to be one of the following.

 

A) Had a boyfriend.

B) Broke up with boyfriend 2 days ago and is looking for a shoulder to cry on.

C) Photo's were 2+ years old and didn't represent how they looked now.

D) Generally psycho and insane.

E) Were just on the site for ****s and giggles.

 

Girl I'm currently seeing is lovely and we would of never met otherwise. Taking her out on 3rd date tomorrow night :love:

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I was on OkCupid for something like a month? Haha! But I liked it a lot. I met my boyfriend through that site.

 

I've never been on any other online dating sites so I can't compare, but it's a fun site with a lot of cool features. Even though I'm not a member anymore, I still like to read their blog (OkTrends - where they use data and statistics from the site to write articles about dating and interpersonal trends).

 

And yes, if I remember correctly, you can block people.

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Q: I've thought about giving OKCupid a try since I'm absolutely terrible at meeting people "in real life." Thing is, there are like...5 women on the site that I wouldn't want to see my profile. One of them is an ex-girlfriend, the others are girls I met IRL who I know use the site just as a joke/time-killer. Is there any way to block certain people before your picture up so they wouldn't know it's you? Silly question I know, but oh well. It's a concern of mine.

 

 

You actually know multiple people IRL who use OKCupid just as a joke/time waster? That kind of boggles my mind. Why would anyone do that? They're wasting their own time just to waste OTHER people's time, to be on a dating site which is something most people find painful and nothing more than a means to an end. Eesh.

 

And are you terrible one-on-one IRL also? If so, starting out online doesn't seem like much of a fix to that. You'll be all chatty and friendly online and then IRL be a dud. I know cause that's me. I am ahead of all of this stuff. I used to meet girls on local bulletin-board systems before the internet was even big or popular. My chatty personality and ability to form witty responses to online conversation was a big hit with quite a few girls, and I had a lot of interest from a few of them. When they met me IRL, since I am shy and quiet and afraid to be myself in person, it was always a miserable failure since they weren't getting the kind of person they hoped for. It wasn't my looks back then, since I was thin and cute at the time. So anyway, hope you aren't using it as the crutch I mentioned. That's doomed.

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