dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 My old thread may not have been the most civil. So I will ask: do you think I am a cheater? If yes, why? I have had this accusation come floating towards me and was wondering if ANYONE who thought that would be kind enough to edify me as to why. Because I think it is rude and ridiculous and people who make such accusations without merit should go meet the "testicle-eating deer." (A heart-warming concept that I introduced in another thread). I would also like to know where and when I cheated and who with. Any details would be helpful. I would hate to think I became I cheater over something so unmemorable.
Author dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 And just to clear up: I was born before the sixties ended, so it didn't happen there. If eating ice cream counts after you promised to stop then I have cheated on myself dozens of times. I may or may not have used a blow-up doll as one member suggested (but I doubt it!)
Lorelei_Lane Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 I haven't read all of your posts, but I don't see where you've done anything to be declared a "cheater". I think the people that are saying you are one should stop hiding behind their whole "I know the facts" bull and come right out with it. It's childish to say "You're this! But I'm not going to tell you why I know or give you proof that you said you were!! nananananana!!!" Seriously. I thought most people on this forum were adults.
Author dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 I would say that I am an emotional adolescent, it's something I am working on, which is also why I would like someone to come out of playing hide and seek and maybe we can play tag instead. If I am not too busy at my cheating orgy that is....
Author dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 Ack! The title of my thread is embarrassing! "I would like to know" is how it should read!
FryFish Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 WiY probably has you confused with DaC or willwright or some other ho...
Author dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 Maybe that individual who shall remain nameless is the one who cheated with me, and he is so proud to boast about it but doesn't want to 'out' me. Clearly it wasn't that memorable! No I either was confused with someone else or he has misread my posts or he has taken some of my actions or fall as cheating. I just sent a message to one of my male friends on FB. Does that count as an 'emotional one night stand?' I have been known to have 'emotional quickies' all over town!
highviolet Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 WiY probably has you confused with DaC or willwright or some other ho... I was reading that thread last night where someone called you a cheater, I don't remember who it was, but I think it was wiy, maybe not, but I'm on my phone right now and am too lazy to look it up I've noticed he has a horrible habit of lumping anyone who he disagrees with into the "lying wh0re cheater" category. If it wasn't him in particular, it was probably someone doing the same, because you were agreeing with some ow on the thread or something. Brush it off mama, you got more important things to worry about. Is any one else believing it? Had there been further discussion about it?
Lorelei_Lane Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 DoT, When I butted heads with WiY on a thread, I decided right then and there I wasn't going to get into a pissing contest with them. I'm here because I want to have a place to talk about things I want to talk about and be there for people who need it. Not to argue with someone that can be thick headed and won't pay attention to the obvious truths given to them. At this point, I would just let it be. WiY responded on my thread about my story, and I ignored it. I'm not going to waste my time on someone who is obviously trying to upset people. They win when you let them upset you! From your threads I have read, all I can see is a person who has been destroyed emotionally, and mentally, by their husband's cheating. You have been a trooper in dealing with it and trying to make a stable home for your daughter. I admire you. *hugs* Now, laugh at the silly bunnies! :bunny::bunny::bunny:
jthorne Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 And just to clear up: I was born before the sixties ended, so it didn't happen there. If eating ice cream counts after you promised to stop then I have cheated on myself dozens of times. I may or may not have used a blow-up doll as one member suggested (but I doubt it!) I KNOW you were born after the sixties, that was the joke. It's just as ludicrous as the accusation that you've cheated. Obviously someone didn't get it.
jthorne Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 There was someone here in the past who used to love to deconstruct people's posts and make wild left-field accusations. He's reincarnated a couple times, not sure if this is a third. Anyway, sorry that happened to you DOT.
WorldIsYours Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Getting in a vehicle with someone you didn't even know, who could've killed you, because you were resentful of your husband's actions is immature.
bentnotbroken Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Getting in a vehicle with someone you didn't even know, who could've killed you, because you were resentful of your husband's actions is immature. So is eating too many beans when you know they will give you gas and make you stink.
Author dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 I KNOW you were born after the sixties, that was the joke. It's just as ludicrous as the accusation that you've cheated. Obviously someone didn't get it. I know, I posted about a time-machine etc, in the last thread but it got pulled. I wrote that the acid could have made me time travel and not remember Should have put the laughy face at the end of my comment but thanks for the backup either way
WorldIsYours Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 So is eating too many beans when you know they will give you gas and make you stink. I love my beans. Farting feels good.
Stung Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 DoT, nobody who is familiar with your posts/story and has decent reading comprehension thinks you're a cheater, if that helps. Many people have difficulty with the concept that it is possible to empathize with someone whose troubles you don't actually share. I have been accused of being a 'bitter BS' a time or two on these boards--which, fortunately for me, is not the case.
Author dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 Getting in a vehicle with someone you didn't even know, who could've killed you, because you were resentful of your husband's actions is immature. So, um, being dumped, left and then being ridiculously impulsive and not following through is cheating? Oddly enough my husband looked at the whole incident with deep concern and I with deep embarrassment. Perhaps the fact that I didn't even hold the guy's hand doesn't make a difference at this point? Nobody is more ashamed of that night and those actions then me, but at the end of the day I am quite pleased that I didn't move forward and that it isn't in my nature to do so. It was risky, stupid, impulsive and immature. what it wasn't was adultery. Or very exciting. Or fun. So are we going to call it a 'non-emotional 5 minute stand affair?' And just to end off, it wasn't out of resent, period. It wasn't out if anger either. It was out of my own pathetic low self-esteem to show myself that 'it doesn't mean anything and I am going to take the pain away.' As well I wanted to know what was so damned important about casual random sex that my marriage had to be destroyed over it. Guess what I realized was so important? Nothing. It wasn't even worth pursuing to the end result. It wasn't worth the risk to even get past first base. Or even to first base. I am glad I realized and didn't pressure myself to follow-through on something so stupid and immature. I would say that walking a girl up to an apartment and going inside is inappropriate and stupid as a married man. There is no question as to the intent, but if you walk away before becoming emotionally or sexually involved after you wife just dumped you, I would not think if you as a cheater. Maybe as a bit of an idiot, but not a cheater. So yeah, I was immature and reckless. At least immature and reckless doesn't send me off for another STD test. The first one because of my H btw. Dr. Phil described cheating as something you wouldn't do in front of your spouse. Guess what, my husband occasionally reads my LS posts and I knew there was a good chance that he would monitor that while we were apart. I have also committed to myself never to censor myself here. He was aware of the incident within 24 hours of it happening.
Lorelei_Lane Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Getting in a vehicle with someone you didn't even know, who could've killed you, because you were resentful of your husband's actions is immature. Immature? Maybe. A cheater? Not even close.
Author dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 :lmao:So is eating too many beans when you know they will give you gas and make you stink. Then my husband is very immature when he goes to Taco Bell!
Lorelei_Lane Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 DoT, just ignore this troll. For some reason if he doesn't like something someone says or does, he tries to make them out to be a horrible person. Again, like I said in my previous post, you are doing the best you can with what your husband has put you through. *hugs*
Author dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 Immature? Maybe. A cheater? Not even close. Maybe slightly retarded under extreme stress. A 'mini-cheater' maybe? I've been known to accept opposite - gender rides in my time. In fact, I got dropped off at a doctor's appointment by a male neighbor when my car wouldn't start. Wouldn't I be lashed in Saudi Arabia for something like that?
Author dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 DoT, nobody who is familiar with your posts/story and has decent reading comprehension thinks you're a cheater, if that helps. Many people have difficulty with the concept that it is possible to empathize with someone whose troubles you don't actually share. I have been accused of being a 'bitter BS' a time or two on these boards--which, fortunately for me, is not the case. Thank you, it just bugs me a lot because it only takes one person to ruin a reputation. I used to work in a motel bar and I was very very careful about what I did there because I never wanted my husband to worry (haha I know, those were the days and I was in a small strange town where there was a higher then average chance of a stupid rumor going around. Plus the guys didn't care that I was married. I couldn't do that job for very long. I couldn't believe the way some if the guys would come in and talk about their wives/ girlfriends. Pretty sick, I don't miss it. I am a little bitter about my situation but on the other hand I know I will never endure thus again. I will never let myself go through it again.
Author dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 I love my beans. Farting feels good. So, do you like deer?
Author dreamingoftigers Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 I was reading that thread last night where someone called you a cheater, I don't remember who it was, but I think it was wiy, maybe not, but I'm on my phone right now and am too lazy to look it up I've noticed he has a horrible habit of lumping anyone who he disagrees with into the "lying wh0re cheater" category. If it wasn't him in particular, it was probably someone doing the same, because you were agreeing with some ow on the thread or something. Brush it off mama, you got more important things to worry about. Is any one else believing it? Had there been further discussion about it? Thanks for the backup, no certain believers so far but I want it cleared up. The further discussion was that 'I knew what they were talking about.' That doesn't bode well in a public forum for me. Btw thank you for your nice comment in the avatar thread.
bentnotbroken Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 I love my beans. Farting feels good. Ewww. :p:p
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