bugaboo11 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Will have been married 19 years in May--4 kiddoes youngest is 8. Ups and downs throughout marraige--and the sex. If I said No, for any reason, it was days of silence followed by fighting. It has to be 3-4 times a week or he is mad and life is hell. I read about couples having sex 2x a month and I can't believe it! We went through 3 years of counseling, "graduated" and now... now I just don't feel like I can love him anymore. Even little disagreements he brings up something I said or did in the past, or cruelly mentions I am "sick" like my siblings...who I haven't seen in 10 years because I wanted to show him my loyalty, and also agreed with him that they should stay out of my business. I feel like I have completely and utterly lost myself.. I think he reason I don't leave is the kids. I haven't worked in 20 years and don't know what I'd do. I am afraid of his retaliation--or that he might take our kids. I feel like I have burned through all my own friends they are either a. sick of hearing me tell them about him (most of them say: leave! or b. they don't know anything is wrong and I can't imagine telling them now...embarrassed I suppose. I really feel trapped, I want to honor my vows and protect the kids... where to go?
willowthewisp Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Back to MC to tell him how you feel and work through it and IC for you to figure out why you are unable to tell him how you feel and enforce boundaries and also to help you with the depression of midlife that you are feeling.
Tiberius Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 So basically you are upset because he wants to have sex with you and he is upset because you dont want it often enough. The women who tell you its twice a month, there is no guarantee their husband has it only twice a month. Hookers wont call him on his cellphone. You should do now, what you should have done a long time ago. Sit him down and tell him his advances are too much for him and offer a compromise you are fine with or discuss ways to deal with his urges.
unsureLP Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 If I said No, for any reason, it was days of silence followed by fighting. It has to be 3-4 times a week or he is mad and life is hell. I read about couples having sex 2x a month and I can't believe it! We went through 3 years of counseling, "graduated" and now... now I just don't feel like I can love him anymore. Ugh, I understand what you're saying, I really do. You end up feeling forced to have sex to avoid the silence and anger. No one should have the right to make you feel like that. Yes, both men and women have the right to expect sex in the relationship, but you have to come to an accord. Manipulating through anger and isolation in order to get sex even when the other person doesn't want it makes for a vicious relationship. I'm going through it right now. And you've gone through 3 years of counseling! Did you bring up the issues of sex in counseling? If yes, how did that get "resolved" there? I'm not really any help, I just want to say I understand how you feel only too well. Would you be able to start working now, even if just for your own sanity, to give you some feeling of control over your life?
tojaz Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Back to MC to tell him how you feel and work through it and IC for you to figure out why you are unable to tell him how you feel and enforce boundaries and also to help you with the depression of midlife that you are feeling. What she said, but also It sounds like your H has a very controlling side to him that he would have to address for any chance at success. You both share the blame, hopefully you can share the work load in repairing the damage. TOJAZ
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