guccimane99 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Alright so im new to this but here we go. I dated a girl for a month treated her very well as all my friends said always was there for her. I always sent good morning text's. I left her video messages on her facebook. We didn't get to see each other on halloween so i brought her in candy. I never talked to any other girl other than her. She always told me i treated her the best ever. I told her i didn't want to have sex with her till i could look her in the eyes and tell her "i love you" This girls past is insane with the running back to her ex and what not. So it was close to our one month and i wanted to spoil her and show her that i care about her. So i gave her a dinnner at my house and i took her to the movies. She broke up with me a week later. We were going through a rough patch but i wasn't gonna give up she told me that things were going so well but don't give up on her. She broke up with me two days later and i was destroyed. I finally try for someone and it ends early. So i go no contact for four or five days and i break it because she is destroyed. I told her that i gave her four days with out me in your life and for her to see what life would like to be without me. I eventually let her come back and we were working on things. One day we were in my car kissing and she told me she was hanging with this guy and not to worry hes nothing and not to worry but i worry when they say not to worry. So that night i got pissed cuz i was going through a hard time and she made me feel like ****. I blew her off cuz her messaged pretty much read go **** urself find someone who cares. So i was like **** it then we fought some more and i was like this is terrible i don't want to hurt her i just want her to be happy. So i took her to dinner a week later and we had fun we kissed at the end of the night and she told me she would text me later. She never did and i was kinda pissed but it was what it was. So i helped her with one of her classes and she said all this good stuff and said she wanted to hang on thurs. I was tired so i went to bed and the i called her and she didn't answer and so on till thurs. Thursday came around and i was like i take it were not going and she was like we didn't make plans and im like u didn't pick up ur phone. So she went no contact. TIll my friend sent me a message asking if my ex was dating and to look at this pic and he sent me a photo of her kissing another guy on the cheek. I was so p.o. it wasn't even funny and the sad thing was it was with the guy she said there was nothing there. So i did digging cuz i care and everyone told me hes a manipulator and a dbag and a scumbag. I left a message which i shouldn't and she took it the wrong way and told me to **** myself and that i had no business which she was right but i just wanted her to tell me that she liked him so i could move on and know there was nothing there. So classes started up again and i ignored her and was happy as hell. She saw this and texted me i know this is random but i hope ur doing well and to tell me that she didn't have a problem with me. I didn't respond then my friend told me he ran into her and she was like hey and then she asked how he was doing she asked him how she was doing than asked if he still lifted with me and how i was doing. I was in awwe cuz it was really weird so i was like whatever. So like she would walk behind me and stuff during class. She made the photo of her and that guy her photo and she never did that when she was with me. She made an album of him playing his sport and made that the only thing publically. Im just wondering why? I started dating someone and she knows all about it and im open with it all. Im just wondering if shes gonna come back cuz everyone says im something worth coming back to.
ShatteredReality Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 If you're dating someone else and she treated you so badly...do you want her back? Would you just drop the girl you're dating now for her if she DID try to come back? Kinda sounds to me like it's time to go NC completely, do not check her FB or anything...move forward and leave her in your past.
Author guccimane99 Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 Well the girl broke up with me because she didn't have time for me. I told her that i wished her the best and i hope she finds someone better. She told all my friends that she didn't want to. As for the ex i wrote her a hand written note and weird thing was when i said her name she turned around and smiled for someone who says there over someone why would u smile and her face light up like the fourth of july?? She thanked me for the note apologized said she was sorry and that im a good hearted person and to never change with a smile at the end of the text. Shes dating this guy and i don't want to chase her but i want her to come back. Everyone told they always come back. Its like the movie Swingers when u finally forget they come back.
Fufu Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Even if they do come back, they may not come back for you. They can come back for other reasons. If she can leave you just because she does not have time for you, she can do it again and will you be able to withstand the pain dealt to you by the same person?
Author guccimane99 Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 Even if they do come back, they may not come back for you. They can come back for other reasons. If she can leave you just because she does not have time for you, she can do it again and will you be able to withstand the pain dealt to you by the same person? Yea i understand that most people do come back expecially if you were good to them. What happend was i liked this girl caller her Kristin and she started talking to her ex which i didn't know then i dated lets call her amanda and we dated she broke up for reasons that made no sense. So Kristin was there to help me through the pain. Then like a couple months later kristin and i dated. She broke up with me because she so called "didn't have time for a bf" i understood and thought if u care about someone u can make time for them. See the thing is i like kristin but i don't want her back. We didn't have that great of a relationship, but amanda i did. I treated her really well and i kinda to this day don't understand why we broke up. That the one i wrote an apology letter to. When i called her name out she turned and gave me the biggest smile i ever seen and i gave her the hand written note and left. I really want to know if i should try and talk to her. See if there is still feelings i know shes dating someone and im happy for her but this guy is not a good guy from what i am told. Has a terrible reputation and im not a perfect guy but i have never used a girl and i don't think i will ever.
Fufu Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Yea i understand that most people do come back expecially if you were good to them. This is not that true in my opinion. Whether you are good to them or not, it's up to them, it's their choice whether they do want to come back or not. ========================================================= It doesn't really matter if she's coming back or not, if she actively chooses you, she will make her sincere actions SHOWN to you because right now, she's the one who make her own decision to leave the relationship. Don't put yourself in the past anymore, move on and forward. Leave it to fate, you should be focusing on yourself now, about your own future and happiness. Start NC if you do want to wake up in the morning feeling great and not feeling down of why she's not with you anymore.
betterdeal Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 People do get back together but generally it only works when both have changed. They also tend to be able to take each other at face value and choose to date the person who is there at that time, not the person who was there in the past. Holding on to old feelings for someone and not changing yourself is a sure fire way to ensure that if you do back together it will end the same way it did previously. Nothing changes if no-one changes.
Author guccimane99 Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 Yea i understand that most people do come back expecially if you were good to them. This is not that true in my opinion. Whether you are good to them or not, it's up to them, it's their choice whether they do want to come back or not. ========================================================= It doesn't really matter if she's coming back or not, if she actively chooses you, she will make her sincere actions SHOWN to you because right now, she's the one who make her own decision to leave the relationship. Don't put yourself in the past anymore, move on and forward. Leave it to fate, you should be focusing on yourself now, about your own future and happiness. Start NC if you do want to wake up in the morning feeling great and not feeling down of why she's not with you anymore. I was in NC for 4 months. I got over her and felt great one morning and she texted me saying that she hoped i was doing well and that she didn't have a problem with me. I didn't respond to it. I just took it as it was i didn't get my hopes up at all. I was hoping that she was realizing i was great to her and that she did it. Im debating after i hand wrote this letter which i will add to the end. She responded to it and im wondering if i should take the step to talk to see if she is open. [FONT=Calibri]I just wanted to make things clear since I do owe u this I’m sorry for what I’ve done. In the past months I’ve been realizing how immature I was towards you when we broke up. I said some stuff I really didn't mean and they hurt you. I was just emotional messed up with all the things going on in my life. I’m sorry I took them out on you and you don’t deserve that. You are right I am emotional unstable but, I have learned through life that u should live everyday as if it were your last always tell everyone how u feel towards them this is why I follow my emotions. I do owe Kyle, your friends, and your family an apology and I’m sorry I never meant to say those things I said I was just upset. Ur right it is none of my business who your friends with or who u date. It was this that made me realize i was changing from being my strong, happy, confident, independent person who wanted to make everyone happy to someone who was trying to be dependent on someone else and just wanted the things that I wanted. I’m sorry for all the unnecessary drama i have caused you and I’m sorry that we didn't work out you were right. I should tell you that it was my fault we broke up and not urs. I never thought you were a bad person I always thought u were someone who is smart, confident, and caring and that makes you who you are. I truly hope that whatever your doing you are happy. Im not going to bother you again with this i truly am sorry and goodbye.[/FONT]
betterdeal Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 I was in NC for 4 months. I got over her and felt great one morning and she texted me Recalling feeling great just before the person of your affections contacts you after a long period is quite common. I think it's bad recall, rather than millions upon millions of happy coincidences around the world, or some magical force making this all happen so often. It's more likely you felt much the same as you did the previous day until you got that text, and that made you feel happy i.e. the happiness occurred after the text.
Author guccimane99 Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 I was happy i mean we have class twice a week for school. It was a monday and i was getting over it like the feeling were dissapatating. I saw her she left early during the day and i got a text later during that day.
Author guccimane99 Posted April 14, 2011 Author Posted April 14, 2011 Recalling feeling great just before the person of your affections contacts you after a long period is quite common. I think it's bad recall, rather than millions upon millions of happy coincidences around the world, or some magical force making this all happen so often. It's more likely you felt much the same as you did the previous day until you got that text, and that made you feel happy i.e. the happiness occurred after the text. It has been like a week since i have talked to her and i feel great about myself. Im back to the goofy, confident, and trusting person i used to be. Im loving it.
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