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Walking away from a guy and looking back at him because you're attracted to him

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lolo1234 Established Member

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It sounds to me like you're just anxious and unsure of yourself when it comes to women so you're trying to over analyze things

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Ross PK Established Member

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I understand that Mr. Lonely and I said so right at first. However, if there is anything another person and I wish to discuss back and forth then that is fine.

 

@Ross, maybe you would do better with the ladies online first if you are shy with them in person. You come across on here very well, imo. What if I started a thread on here for who wants to talk sweet with Ross?

 

Yes? :)

 

LOL! Nah, I feel embarrassed. :o

 

I have already made those sorts of connections with women online though.

Mrlonelyone Established Member

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I never said you could not discuss it. I only said that he should take what's said worth a grain of salt.

 

I just wanted to directly answer the mans question without having to suggest that he's pathological. He just hasn't had the luck yet. :)

betterdeal Established Member

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If only I could get proof somehow that at least one women, who has seen me in real life, was attracted to me. It feels like I'll never ever get this proof. I've been looking for it for about the last 12 years.

 

Then go out and flirt for f*ck's sake. You've been told what to do, now do it, or just accept that you do not want to be attractive.

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It sounds to me like you're just anxious and unsure of yourself when it comes to women so you're trying to over analyze things

Bingo.

 

He lacks experience. Which can have all sorts of explanations in the whole wide world. There are more reasons to think he's just a normal guy who due to lack of success may be a bit love shy. Success will come Ross and then all the signs that make no sense will make some sense to you.

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Ross PK Established Member

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Then go out and flirt for f*ck's sake. You've been told what to do, now do it, or just accept that you do not want to be attractive.

 

Of course I want to be attractive, but going out and flirting is easier said than done.

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I just wanted to directly answer the mans question without having to suggest that he's pathological. He just hasn't had the luck yet. :)

 

What do you mean, "pathalogical"? You're sounding remarkably prejudicial on mental health issues.

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Of course I want to be attractive, but going out and flirting is easier said than done.

 

It's easier done if you don't waste your time making excuses and dithering around worrying about it online. You want proof? You know how to get it. Your life, your choice.

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It's easier done if you don't waste your time making excuses and dithering around worrying about it online. You want proof? You know how to get it. Your life, your choice.

 

Like I said, it's not that easy.

betterdeal Established Member

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What is the worst thing that can happen if you go out and give someone a wink, a smile, a nod, a second glance? They laugh at you? They think you're weird? So what, it is funny and you are weird - we're all weird. You haven't hurt anyone and that's what matters most in my book, and it might even cheer someone up, so go out and do it.

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Like I said, it's not that easy.

 

Yes it is. It's a helluver lot easier than spending the rest of your life trying to think women to like you.

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Ross PK Established Member

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Yes it is. It's a helluver lot easier than spending the rest of your life trying to think women to like you.

 

Um, no it isn't.

 

You think I'm lying or something? Jeez.

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Um, no it isn't.

 

You think I'm lying or something? Jeez.

 

Okay, I've run out of ideas. Good luck in your pursuit of happiness.

SummersEve Established Member

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I have already made those sorts of connections with women online though.

 

Well that's a good step then. Okay, I think I am starting to get a better idea of where you're at. The suggestions on another thread to go to a hooker, I see that is just not going to happen. Even going out and flirting isn't going to work, not because you don't want to but because you're too shy. But you really DO want to meet a nice lady. So then, I'm guessing joining a dating site would be a no?

 

If you want to, I'd be happy to help you do your profile. If not, how about try something less direct. This is iVillageUK, a message board a lot like this one, with lots of ladies on it. Who at least live in the UK. If you hang out on there and somehow let them get to your picture, I bet you would meet somebody indirectly, becoming messageboard friends first when it's not even a dating situation. Is that a step you can take? :)

 

 

http://www.ivillage.co.uk/

 

P.S. What does the icon of the bunny head jumping out of the hole mean?

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Okay, I've run out of ideas. Good luck in your pursuit of happiness.

 

And you. :)

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What do you mean, "pathalogical"? You're sounding remarkably prejudicial on mental health issues.

 

What? If you take a persons normal behavior.... like asking the question Ross did... and suggest he has to have a mental health diagnosis like Aspergers... that's pathologizing his problem.

 

You suggested that he has to have a problem and real life autism is a problem.

 

Said to you by a person who has Autistic family members such as my beloved little sister who has diagnosed HFA. Personally I think that just labeling anyone who's a little akward as "autistic" trivializes the real problems that real autistic people have.:mad:

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Well that's a good step then. Okay, I think I am starting to get a better idea of where you're at. The suggestions on another thread to go to a hooker, I see that is just not going to happen. Even going out and flirting isn't going to work, not because you don't want to but because you're too shy. But you really DO want to meet a nice lady. So then, I'm guessing joining a dating site would be a no?

 

If you want to, I'd be happy to help you do your profile. If not, how about try something less direct. This is iVillageUK, a message board a lot like this one, with lots of ladies on it. Who at least live in the UK. If you hang out on there and somehow let them get to your picture, I bet you would meet somebody indirectly, becoming messageboard friends first when it's not even a dating situation. Is that a step you can take? :)

 

 

http://www.ivillage.co.uk/

 

P.S. What does the icon of the bunny head jumping out of the hole mean?

I think the bunny head is supposed to me jumping up and down happy. Now that you mention it.... a bunny's unbodied head jumping out of a hole is sorta creepy. LOL :)

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Ross PK Established Member

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Well that's a good step then. Okay, I think I am starting to get a better idea of where you're at. The suggestions on another thread to go to a hooker, I see that is just not going to happen. Even going out and flirting isn't going to work, not because you don't want to but because you're too shy. But you really DO want to meet a nice lady. So then, I'm guessing joining a dating site would be a no?

 

If you want to, I'd be happy to help you do your profile. If not, how about try something less direct. This is iVillageUK, a message board a lot like this one, with lots of ladies on it. Who at least live in the UK. If you hang out on there and somehow let them get to your picture, I bet you would meet somebody indirectly, becoming messageboard friends first when it's not even a dating situation. Is that a step you can take? :)

 

 

http://www.ivillage.co.uk/

 

P.S. What does the icon of the bunny head jumping out of the hole mean?

 

I'm not ready to date, as I need to work on other areas of my life first (I just know some people are going to moan at me about this). But maybe I'll check out that ivillage place, and see what it's like.

 

As for the bunny icon I've got no idea, lol.

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I'm not ready to date, due to certain reasons (I just know some people are going to moan at me about this). But maybe I'll check out that ivillage place, and see what it's like.

 

As for the bunny icon I've got no idea, lol.

 

If I am following you, you will need to ease into a relationship verrry slowly. Is that right?

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Ross PK Established Member

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If I am following you, you will need to ease into a relationship verrry slowly. Is that right?

 

Not really. I'm just not ready because of the way things are in my life to actually start going onto dating sites and go out there on dates.

 

If the things I am working on were sorted, then I wouldn't care if I ended up head first in a relationship. I'd just be really happy that it's happened and someone wants me.

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Okay Ross. Good luck! :bunny:

betterdeal Established Member

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What? If you take a persons normal behavior.... like asking the question Ross did... and suggest he has to have a mental health diagnosis like Aspergers... that's pathologizing his problem.

 

It's not just this one question, rather the series of questions that are all asking if a woman does X does this mean Y, which are all suggestive of someone who's not getting it at all, ergo I get the impression of someone who lacks social skills, ergo, I think maybe he has Aspergers or HFA.

 

You suggested that he has to have a problem and real life autism is a problem.

 

I said what my impression was. You appear to be unable to discern my expression of my thoughts and feelings, from a declarative statement.

 

He does have a problem, hence he asks so many questions, and as the conversation has gone on, we've established he has the usual range of emotions, but has some mental blockage on investing some emotions in order to get some emotional return.

 

Said to you by a person who has Autistic family members such as my beloved little sister who has diagnosed HFA. Personally I think that just labeling anyone who's a little akward as "autistic" trivializes the real problems that real autistic people have.:mad:

 

I haven't labelled anyone. I have asked if someone has a diagnosis and have explained why I think he may have a condition.

 

You take offence at this, clearly. It's really not my problem how you misread, misinterpret and misrepresent what I have said. I feel no shame in asking someone if they have a particular health condition. If he did say yes, then advice can be tailored better to suit.

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