Dante311 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 wasn't really sure WHERE to post this... Ok... without the backstory, lol... You've dated someone for longer than a month, but been with them for about 4-5 months (but exclusive with her (or him) for 1 month - ie people knew you were together)... then things go south, you break up. Regardless of who dumps who... it's disrespectful for your "boy" / "good friend" to start hanging out more with your ex, no? Or am I just f'n crazy? I HAVE NEVER stopped my friends from being friends with any of my exes, but I WOULD ASSUME it'd be insinuated that MY exes are off limits... at least for a grace period (some would say forever)... as friends or MORE. No? (PS - the ex BITCHED me out over the phone when I befriended her friends after we broke up, and then claimed that my "Boy" and her were friends before she and I started... which, is a blatant lie) I would never do that to my "boys"... Yet, my "buddy"/"boy"/"good friend" has befriended my ex. I've never stopped him from doing so, but I'm irritated as **** for him doing that. I haven't made a comment to him yet, but I did to the ex. She doesn't think she's doing any wrong. Now I feel like she's doing it on purpose to piss me off. And it is. I'm ignoring her. I have a new phone.. so I don't have her # anymore (which is good for me)... but I'm actually thinking about removing this sonuvabitch from my group of friends. He can be friends with my friends... I mean, after all... he is a funny kid, but I don't agree with his morals. He's a player. Burned by a chick in high school... into his freshman year, he's ****ing 4 girls now and NOW hanging out regularly with MY ex. It's only been... a month and a half since we broke up. I am not going to say anything to him... but I will not acknowledge his existence anymore. He should know what he's doing is not wrong, but definitely disrespectful to me... in my opinion. IF he would've asked me or mentioned it to me first... I would be ok with it. Honestly, I would've. Because he was being RESPECTFUL to me, but all this time he's been denying their hanging out... and for all I know, hooking up. ...FML. I chose great partners and friends... =/ I hate people sometimes. Advice? POVs? thanks!
itteloc Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 He crossed the line. Cut him off. With friends like that you don't even need enemies. He should know better. If you and her were never were official that's one thing but even if you were only official for 1 month it's bro code she's off limits.
seibert253 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Bro code says you should at least ask your boy/girl, if it's ok to date their ex. If your boy say's no, then end of story.
Star Gazer Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 How was she your GF when she was in love with her ex, told you as much, and was sleeping with other guys while seeing you?
Jynxx Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Get rid of the guy. This is a minor issue, but it shows hit predatory mindset and proves he will not doubt to **** you over for personal gain in the future.
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