fortyninethousand322 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I few weeks ago I went out with a girl from a dating site. We went on two dates (the first one I asked her out, the second she asked me). I had a good time, and she seemed to have a good time too. We made plans for a third date, but she canceled at the last minute. When I called to ask her out again, she didn't answer nor did she return my call. From that I think that I can infer that she wasn't interested, but then she deleted her facebook (or blocked me and then made her profile completely private I don't know which) and deleted her online dating profile. Is this normal to not just not return calls but to go completely off the grid? Granted, her other actions could be completely unrelated to me, but it still strikes me as odd. Anyone else do this, or have it happen to them?
reservoirdog1 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 It does strike me as kind of odd, but based on what you described about the first two dates, I'd say it says way more about her than it does about you. The girl's got issues. Bullet successfully dodged.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 It does strike me as kind of odd, but based on what you described about the first two dates, I'd say it says way more about her than it does about you. The girl's got issues. Bullet successfully dodged. That's my gut feeling.
tinktronik Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I would actually say from a female perspective that this has nothing to do with you and that the girl most likely has a BF that has caught her out on the online dating profile. The way she has deleted and/or blocked suggests immediate reparation to someone else.
Mrlonelyone Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 What tink said. That level of dropping off grid completely in this FB and internet dominated age is rather extreme. I did that once...sort of... I was just tired of being so darn connected, of hearing my phone buzz with all kinds of messages and calls etc etc. It literally drove me bonkers. So I took a vacation from all of that by just going off grid for a week.
tinktronik Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 What tink said. That level of dropping off grid completely in this FB and internet dominated age is rather extreme. I did that once...sort of... I was just tired of being so darn connected, of hearing my phone buzz with all kinds of messages and calls etc etc. It literally drove me bonkers. So I took a vacation from all of that by just going off grid for a week. I think every time I have had a female friend drop off the net from FB (not to mention the drop off from the dating profile) I have found out later that they were cheating or almost cheating, just prior to deleting, on their spouse. It seems women often get caught out, delete all their ways of correspondence with other to appease their partner and life rolls on. Just my 2 cents though.
yessy21 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I just did this. i deleted facebook. my dating profile. even changed my number... i got to busy. i need some mee time. and im redecorating my new place so i dont want any distractions.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 I think every time I have had a female friend drop off the net from FB (not to mention the drop off from the dating profile) I have found out later that they were cheating or almost cheating, just prior to deleting, on their spouse. It seems women often get caught out, delete all their ways of correspondence with other to appease their partner and life rolls on. Just my 2 cents though. I certainly think it is possible that she was seeing me on the sly. But considering that she lived with her parents and she had just come back from working overseas I doubt she was married. Looking back, I really do think something was "off" about her. Everyone here thinks that a) she has issues, or b) she was seeing someone else and cheating on them (although nothing we did could be construed as "cheating"). Either way, her behavior is somewhat less than typical.
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