SweetDaphne Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 This question can be answered by guys or gals and is a curious question, nothing really more than that. Guys: When starting a new relationship or getting to know someone do you prefer the girl play hard to get or be more aggressive and take action on contacting each other, making plans, etc? Girls: Do you tend to play hard to get more or take the initiative when you like a guy and want to get to know him and hang out? What method do you prefer from the opposite sex?
EasyHeart Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I don't like either. And I really, really don't like anyone "playing" anything. When I first start dating someone, I do all the initiating, partly because I want to and partly because it's expected. If she calls, that's great --- UNLESS it's calling every day "just to check in". That gets annoying real fast. Reeeeeaaal fast. When I'm first dating someone, I'm looking for whether she is receptive to my attention. Is she attentive and involved with me when we're out? Do our dates seem important to her? Is she eager/excited when I call? Does she return my calls promptly? Those are signs of interest and indicate that my attention is welcome. If it seems like I'm no big deal to her, then I'll move on and look for someone who does think I'm a big deal. If she starts talking about china patterns on the third date, I'll change my phone number and grow a beard. I'm a professional, and I date mostly professional women. I look at scheduling dates the same way as I do scheduling other appointments, and I appreciate a woman who does the same. When I call a woman and ask her out, nothing gets me hotter than "Let me pull up my calendar". . . .
Eeyore79 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I'm female, and I don't play silly games with anyone I date. If I like someone I'll express my interest, and will take the initiative in arranging dates sometimes. Equally I expect the guy not to play silly games, to be honest and forthright if he likes me, and to arrange dates roughly as often as I do. Obviously I wouldn't be stalkerish or clingy, wouldn't pester the guy all the time, wouldn't talk about marriage too early, and would expect him to do the same. But I really don't see anything wrong with being open about your interest in someone and wanting to see them regularly. Anyone who wants to play games and hide their feelings is most definitely not right for me.
Thedude22 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I hate when girls play hard to get, if you want to go out with me let's go out, if not then I don't want to talk to you anymore. Don't make me guess it's a waste of time.
TaraMaiden Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 If you're confident, 'playing hard to get' doesn't enter into it.
USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 If you're confident, 'playing hard to get' doesn't enter into it. Don't play any games at all. Can't go wrong with either of these responses. Boy likes girl, boy goes out with girl. It's as easy as that. If girl wants to talk to boy, then girl talks to boy. No games.
somedude81 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Playing hard to get is stupid. Do take action on contacting each other, making plans. Having initiative is a good way to show your interest.
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