P&R Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 (edited) Sometimes I feel like just a friend in my relationship, like I'm not a priority... When I see her she is warm, and affectionate she also shares things with me that she doesn't with other people except her two best friends. Simply put it's amazing when I see her. However the times I see her are rare. I'm lucky if I get to see my girlfriend twice a week. We usually go 4 days without seeing each other since our classes together have ended. Both of us are unemployed and looking for a job, and taking a quarter off of school, so it isn't like we are that busy at the moment. Money isn't an issue either; we usually just hang around and watch movies, or take long walks or cuddle(we also have quite a bit of money saved). She seems to genuinely have fun just hanging around the house with me, as do I. When we see each other after these long intervals it's awkward when we see each other. We just exchange a few text here and there during the 4 day period, so there isn't much interaction going on. Her best friend on the other hand spends at least 3-4 days with her for hours on end. Not only that they MSN for hours. She spends a ton of time with other her other friends too... Before I had a talk with her she was spending more time with a her movie buddy than me(to clarify this person is not a bestie just a regular friend). This makes me feel like I'm just another one of her friends. I'm not a clingy guy and I would understand if she had a demanding job or some other pressing matter sucking up her time as long as I felt like a priority, after all that's life. Zengirl brought up a good point in another thread (sorry if I butcher what you said zengirl) it's not the amount of time you spend with the person rather whether or not you feel like a priority. Right now I don't feel like a priority, and it's starting to eat at me. Edited March 29, 2011 by P&R
Nexus One Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 What if you told her you sometimes just miss her, that you love having her by your side. That's saying it in a mild way, perhaps she will understand what you're trying to convey.
Author P&R Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 What if you told her you sometimes just miss her, that you love having her by your side. That's saying it in a mild way, perhaps she will understand what you're trying to convey. I do that, and she repeats the same thing back.
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