eugene3 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Hello everyone, I started to talk again with a ex-girlfriend i dated almost 2 years ago. This is not the GF i have been writing about but another ex. Long story short we dated for about 6 months almost 2 years ago. I started to date this girl right after my ex of 3 years that i was so devasted about. So anyways it ended because of me i was not ready after the ex broke off the engagement and just did not care and eventually she got tired of it and we just stopped talking. She moved on and so did i. We still for all this time talked and texted small talk until about a month ago. I got a text saying she was no longer involved and that we should get together soon. I agreed and this past weekend we met up for a evening. I have not seen her in almost 2 years and was not sure how things would turn out. We met for dinner and drinks talked about the past and future. I told her i was very interested in seeing her and she said lets see how the evening goes. Without to much detail the evening was great i felt really good about seeing her and some old feelings came back. I texted her today saying i want to see her again and she said one day at a time to me. I am not sure what that means but it seems she is either not sure or she is just feeling out the situation and maybe has someone else she is talking too. I dont know what to do because i am very into her and enjoyed seeing her and i want to get serious again. It just seems she is not interested because there are times i text her and dont hear back from her for days. I just dont think talking or texting every few days is a good idea nor is it what i want. I feel we need to talk on the phone more and see each other more. I asked to see her this weekend and she said one day at a time. I just dont know what to do to win her back. I think also maybe she is protecting herself because of last time we dated but i was a different person then and told her this. What shoud i do? Should i e-mail her saying how i feel and what i want? can i get some insight please.
0hpenelope Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 (edited) Hello eugene! Interesting... I remember you! Good (or not so good) to see you around again. So this ex of yours, you never maintained a friendship with her for the 2 years you were apart (and only a 6-month relationship at that!) and now, something's a-brewin' again... I like the potential of this and where this can go. She's understandably scared and wanted to feel it out. This situation has got to get as close to zero as possible, meaning none of the reminders of the past relationship that didn't work. You're a different person then and you're not the same guy anymore. That's what you're saying, right? Don't get too hasty and eager. It's obvious she's interested (she's the one who initiated the contact about that subject), but push too hard and she'll run in the opposite direction. We girls get freaked out about that stuff, too. I think sending an e-mail's too soon as she did just tell you "one day at a time." Don't bug her. You've already put it out there that you're interested too, and she's not going to forget that. Be patient. Be patient. She's hesitant for a good reason and you already know what that is. I know you have a limit with patience and understanding (everyone does) and she'll have to show that she really wants the second chance too, but go with her pace for now. Courtship is a delicate dance. Be patient. I'm sure you can hold out a couple of months for this girl. Enjoy this part of wooing and really, don't rush it. How long has it been since you saw her? It sounds like it was just three days ago to this day - and only a month ago that she pitched the idea to get together. That's definitely not too long ago either. Also, this? It just seems she is not interested because there are times i text her and dont hear back from her for days.Sounds like a very familiar situation... Read through the threads (yes, I'm talking wayyy back when, too! 2002, 2003, 2004, 2006... I've found a lot of insightful comments through that method too, and I'm filling up my notebook quite nicely with good stuff!) here, you will find many valuable nuggets of wisdom about courtship. Just my two pennies. I hope other people will give you their opinions, too. Good luck! Edited March 29, 2011 by 0hpenelope just added a few things.
Author eugene3 Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 Thanks 0hpenelope, It has been almost 2 years since i last saw her. She texted me a month ago saying she is no longer in a relationship and started to explain to me why. I suggested not her that we meet up and we did and it or at least for me was a great experiance. The next day she agreed it was good to see each other so i then suggested to meet up again she said "one day at a time" i have not talked to her since and i texted her after wards stil have not heard back. Today i did nto bother her and dont plan on it. I think either she is stuck on the ex or is playing her options and there is another man involved. I am not going to push her i wil just wait for her to get back to me. I just dont understand entirely what she is thinking but it just seems she is not that interested. I think i am more into her now then i ever was for some reason and maybe its because she is not that into me???? I dont know she said i twas a great time with me and i thought so as well. I will wait it out.
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