Livelovelearn Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Hello All, So this month makes a year that my ex and I have broken up, due to his unfaithfulness that occurred while each of us were going through things in our lives. Now over the time we had contact on and off and as of a month ago it was off for good, i have no way of contacting him (facebook page is gone). Now im currently dating this one guy and there was a previous guy before this one too, i didnt force it, it just happened so i am kind of moving on. Today out of nowhere i just broke down, most days im fine. But today i just started breaking down and i dont get why, its been a year basically. As for my dating life, i find so many men want relations and not relationship and i like having something of substance. So dating is okay but im not in a relationship or anything. But my ex was my first and we were so close and i miss that so maybe i miss the relationship and not him specifically. But i just keep crying and its weird because its been a year. Does anyone know what im talking about? Has this happened a year after a break up? Like i said most days im fine but lately he did pop up on my mind.
cerridwen Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Hello All, So this month makes a year that my ex and I have broken up, due to his unfaithfulness that occurred while each of us were going through things in our lives. Now over the time we had contact on and off and as of a month ago it was off for good...But today i just started breaking down and i dont get why, its been a year basically. Hi LLL, Though it's been a year since the original B/U, the on-again, off-again contact is likely why the pain feels fresh. One really needs time AND space to heal. You've only had time and perhaps not enough space. So, don't trip too much thinking you should be better by now. Believe it or not, your healing time began as of a month ago. The good news is, it will likely accelerate when you commit fully to NC.
Author Livelovelearn Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 Thanks for your response Cerridwen, it does make me feel better to hear someone say that. I guess your right ..the healing did start over a month ago, thats the real no contact and i know in my heart that i am never going to contact him ago , i know it because im scared to so i dont think ill be doing any reaching out. I dont get weak n contact him, i just miss him and what we had. Thats all. I know he wont contact me either specially since i seen pics of him and some girl getting comfy on fb, hence the reason y i deleted his fb and i sent him a message wishing him well...of course he didnt respond.
dreamingoftigers Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 When something traumatic happens like cheating, your brain stores it and sometimes it bites you in the ass when you aren't expecting it. Your brain is probably just ready to process it now. I know that over the next two years my brain will be having some fun with my wiring, I have pretty terrible dreams lately.
Fufu Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Don't be too hard on yourself I believe he was your first true love and sometimes it will take more time to fully recover. On the positive side, you are doing well Don't forget that day by day you get better and better.
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