lolo1234 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I'll be joining the online dating world at some point and have gotten ideas for what I want my profile to say. Yeah I know this I for the small percentage that will actually check out my profile and not just look at pics. Some ideas so far: I'm a passionate, opinionated woman. *I love intelligent conversations and a little debate is always fun. * A sense of humor is mandatory. I love joking around and sometimes it might be at your expense but don't worry I can take it as well as I can dish it.* But dont get me wrong, Although I can hold my own, In a great relationship, I make you feel like a man and you make me feel like a woman. *There is nothing better that I like to do for my man than to make him feel like a king.
Sabali Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I'll be joining the online dating world at some point and have gotten ideas for what I want my profile to say. Yeah I know this I for the small percentage that will actually check out my profile and not just look at pics. Some ideas so far: I'm a passionate, opinionated woman. *I love intelligent conversations and a little debate is always fun. * A sense of humor is mandatory. I love joking around and sometimes it might be at your expense but don't worry I can take it as well as I can dish it.* But dont get me wrong, Although I can hold my own, In a great relationship, I make you feel like a man and you make me feel like a woman. *There is nothing better that I like to do for my man than to make him feel like a king. Opinionated woman = I love to argue. Leave it out! I love joking around and sometimes it might be at your expense = I will be talking $#it about you and may be annoying at times. Leave it out! I make you feel like a man and you make me feel like a woman = we need each other to make us feel like the gender we are. Leave it out! There is nothing better that I like to do for my man than to make him feel like a king = I am clingy and my world will revolve around you. Leave it out! This leaves you back to the drawing board but that is okay. You will get overwhelming responses without trying too hard. Speak more on your hobbies, what you like to do for fun, your goals, and show a bit of humor and you will do fine. Really, I was dating a woman who posted nothing but her picture and received more responses than she could handle.
Imajerk17 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Pictures are 75% of a woman's profile. (If you're reading this and say it's really more like 95%, I'm not going to disagree with you.) Anyway, your text is also too vague. Don't just make empty claims either. If you're passionate and adventurous, give examples of you being passionate and adventurous.
daphne Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Opinionated woman = I love to argue. Leave it out! I love joking around and sometimes it might be at your expense = I will be talking $#it about you and may be annoying at times. Leave it out! I make you feel like a man and you make me feel like a woman = we need each other to make us feel like the gender we are. Leave it out! There is nothing better that I like to do for my man than to make him feel like a king = I am clingy and my world will revolve around you. Leave it out! This leaves you back to the drawing board but that is okay. You will get overwhelming responses without trying too hard. Speak more on your hobbies, what you like to do for fun, your goals, and show a bit of humor and you will do fine. Really, I was dating a woman who posted nothing but her picture and received more responses than she could handle. I chuckled copiously because I agreed with most. But I thought men liked the idea of being treated like a king?
Imajerk17 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I chuckled copiously because I agreed with most. But I thought men liked the idea of being treated like a king? Less than you might think actually. I want a woman who has my back and I have hers. I actually like it when a woman challenges me from time to time. I don't want a servant or anything. Also, it's such a throwaway statement. All too easy to say, all too hard to back up. Just leave it out.
MistaDynamic Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I would add men don't read between the lines well. Your overall post is vague and can be read different ways as Sabali stated. I would instead state what exactly are you passionate about. What are you opinionated about. Who do you find funny Adam Sandler or more Dennis Miller. Intelligent conversations about what? The direct approach is always the best approach when it comes to men.
Sabali Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I would add men don't read between the lines well. Your overall post is vague and can be read different ways as Sabali stated. I would instead state what exactly are you passionate about. What are you opinionated about. Who do you find funny Adam Sandler or more Dennis Miller. Intelligent conversations about what? The direct approach is always the best approach when it comes to men. These are good suggestions here.
TouchedByViolet Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I would say that is a bad profile. You didn't say anything about your education, work, immediate/long term goals, activities you like, passions, etc. The tone of your profile makes me think immature.
Feelin Frisky Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I don't know what it was but my impression was that you might be a little too plucky for me (and I'm OK with pluckiness). Hmm, now I got it. I don't like for my SO to mock me or compete with me. Are you sure this is what you want to say? I'm cool with mockery as long as we focus it togther elsewhere.
Andy_K Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I'd run a mile from anyone who describes themselves as 'opinionated' in their opening sentence. It's one of those words people use to describe themselves which aren't the same as the words other people would use to describe them opinionated = stubborn and argumentative, in the same way that 'strong personality' would = raging b*tch. Never describe your personality in a profile, it's better to give examples. e.g If you've got a great sense of humour, you make a funny observation or comment. If you're ambitious, mention something you've worked hard on, etc. Your profile reads a little too much like you've got a pigeon hole for a guy worked out and that's exactly how he'll fit into your life. Consider dropping everything about how you'll make each other feel. That isn't going to draw in guys in the same way that painting a picture with words could with women. This means you'll probably have to start over...
Anxiety Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I wouldn't mind being treated like a king. As for the profile, you need some detail about you that could start a conversation. With your profile, you'll get a few messages of "Hi" and " Your pretty". Then you're going to complain that there isn't any decent guys on the site because you didn't give them anything of substance to say to you.
Disillusioned Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 But I thought men liked the idea of being treated like a king? NO. NO. Being treated like a king means having to manage a bunch of people who are less competent than oneself. Maybe that was why George Washington flatly refused to be crowned?
Mrlonelyone Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 What I noticed is that your profile has many claims about how you treat other people. These claims could only be seen as true or false from the point of view of the second or third person. ie. are you opinionated or argumentative treat a man like a king VS "clingy" etc. Try making claims about yourself that would don't depend on the point of view of the person you are interacting with. i.e Instead of opinionated say something like "I follow current events and like to discuss the issues of the day." You know 100% what you do and what you like. To some men that could be unattractive. Well those are men you don't really want anyway. i.e. Instead of "treat a man like a king" say "Treating people around me the way I want to be treated with respect, compassion, and dignity makes me feel good". Get the idea? Remember a on line dating profile has two functions. One is to attract the people you are compatible with. The other function is to keep away those who you are clearly not compatible with. So don't try to write it to get maximum response. Just be totally honest.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 To be honest, you sound like high maintenance. A guy would sleep with you if you were hot, but then would drop you like a stone.
Mrlonelyone Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Joe. Trust me women look at the pictures too. The pictures matter to them more than they will often admit in mixed company. However... a bad profile can keep people from actually going through with a date. i.e. Suppose you had this picture... of a well known handsome Charming guy. With a profile that said. "Handsome personable guy seeks brunette with hair parted in middle for kinky role play. Must enjoy bondage. I like long drives in my car to out of the way places, long walks on the beach and writing letters. I have had some legal problems lately but I swear I did not do it.... Write [email protected]" The profile can make a difference. LOL.
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