gentz Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 (edited) I and my ex-girlfriend broke up. I was away at Christmas, when visits to my family. She was pregnant. Everything was planned that we would be family. I'm 26 and she is 25 years. What happened was that she hangs with work friends that I did not knew so well, have met them a few times when I would pick my ex from work. These colleagues are single girls, and my ex knows them for about 1 and half years. I and she had fight over the phone since she was pregnant and wanted an abortion. We planned everything and why abortion? I asked her. She is the one who stop taking her contraception’s. She wanted to be having children. I had to accept her decision and come home, but then I was not me, it was her, and she said to me that she already decided to not keep me or the child. So days go, and she moved to her family house, but she was not there. I was looking for her to talk about the house we rent and her things. I discover that she stays with her colleagues house since I called her one Thursday morning and she could not speak to me because of her hangover and I did not understood what she was saying. But later that day I phoned her again and, but she told me not remembering that I called her. Dear friends, I do not understand is how one will benefit from the relationship to be single. It appears to me she takes advice from these girls. Everything was very good between me and my ex-girlfriend. But still we were social and had either rented movie's or were out eating dinner and more. Only when she was pregnant, she had too many hormones in the body and could see that she was angry of nothing. I didn’t know she was pregnant until the day I was taking the flight to my family for the Christmas. She was almost three months pregnant according to doctor documents. I wanted to take her with me to my family, but her grandparents where coming to her family house so she had to stay. And I had to go to my family who I had not seen three years. I let her alone after that I cried many nights alone. We’ve been together 10 years and were well liked by her family. I did not say so much and had to accept her wish. But I looked at what she writes on her Facebook wall that she parties every weekend. I see that as she is trying to drink her problems away.... Her colleagues, who are older and have no happy life, but why they invite her to either girl chatter "Gossip talk" over a glass of wine? She told me once when I asked what they are up to, and she said "girl talk" is what they do.. The called her many times by the times she was with me. I realized that I could not say anything to her, because now my words are worth little and cannot say anything to her, because she does not listening me. But she came to me when she had been out and was drunk and began to say "I deserve someone better than her" I was shocked and asked her what she meant by that? Then she began to cry. She did not replay me when I asked her why she cries. I don't know what to say, but this is one of the sickest time I have ever experienced. I have tried talking to her when she is not drunk, but she rejects me, kind of like ignorant way, she acts like she dont know me no more. It's something new, because when we were together she was the smiling girl. I then decided to cut her out completely. I think she's going to be exploited by these single girls she works with. And I hope she relished that soon. I don’t know there girls, because I don’t work with them. She used to have friends that she grew up with but no contact with them no more. Because some lives other states/countries and some have children and are busy with their lives. She sees them verry very little. After all we had done in layers, were either traveled to China, London or Dubai. I do not understand how one can cut out one you have loved so many years. My friends I make this short. Answer me my friends out there. Thanks Edited March 28, 2011 by gentz miss spelling
WiseOne1 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 WOW!! Unlike male friends are to guys, girl friends have much more input and much more power over there female friends, they can sway them towards you and from you, most likely if you were a jerk, your ex couldn't stay away from you, but females have a way of getting there friends away from good guys. (Long story would take forever to explain) Anyways, bassically her friends have been brainwashing her into being single, and living the single life, partying, saying that kids or a kid would weigh down her life. They've poisoned her against you. This has to hurt, because not only did you try to avoid her getting pregnant, but she wanted to be, and not only do you have to live with being hurt over the breakup, u now also are hurt by her wanting to abort your baby.
Author gentz Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 (edited) Hello Wiseone1 Jaa WOW! Hi, I appreciate your answer! can you imagine that I have been here for 10 years in the small town where she is from when I met her. I can not imagine that she took abortion and the whole thing, but I know one thing that she does not feel good either. One can brainwash one but how long? How long she will run after the girls she works with? She's with them 8 hours on the job and she will run after them when she's finished work as well? Nooh, I think you are entitled to simply "tired of each other" ... I think the situation will not be the same after a while. These "Ghossip Girls" have to find something more interesting. they are sick of people who are spoiling it for others. Then my ex's situation is no longer interesting, and she will realize she has really done something very stupid. I was quite desperate when I came home and she sat there, I stalked her by checking her mobile if she had called some guys, but she had called her colleagues, the girls instead. I thought not bad, but until I read about back talk. I was desperate but had to find out why. She talked about me to them by SMS and she called them every time we argued. The stupidest thing is that I do not know them and they do not know me either. If they knew how I am as a person then they would not take anyone's side. Only my ex knows that I am kind person and she uses my kindness to hurt me. There are nothing bad she talked about me when we were together, but she talks to them that I was desprate and crying... I cried and I'm a man with good heart. I'm not a cruel person. Karma will show the good feelings and only time will reveal... Thanks Edited March 29, 2011 by gentz
Fufu Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Is there anything more she isn't telling you? I kind of felt that she's hiding something from you. If a woman truly loves you and have your BABY, she will be delighted and can't wait to settle down with you and welcome the birth of the baby. For me, if my beloved listens to other people and believed in their nonsense and does not believe in me, what do you think of the character of this person is?
kingofhearts Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I CANNOT STAND THIS! The single friends issue always get's on my damn nerves. I think this helped influence my ex quite a bit over time. She has NOTHIN, but single friends and some of them, not all, but some would say dumb sh*t like "I just don't think you guys are going to work out". These are the ones that usually didn't know a damn thing about me or how good I treated her. Don't get me started.......
Author gentz Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 (edited) Well friends, she may be hiding something from me?. But I have stalked her desperate to find out what happened when was a Christmas visit with my family. But at that time, she was pregnant as I mentioning it. She had a lot of hormones in the body, she used to be angry of nothing. It was when she went to her colleagues to get out what she feels and what she should do. What do I think of the character of this person is? It think she is confused, I tried to talk to her, but I had to step back! If I try more I may make things worse.... We had planned everything and even had planes to buy our own flat. I remember once in September 2010, we were at her family house. At that time, her mother asked my ex if she would stop smoking. Then my ex said she will when she becomes pregnant. Her mother replayed when? My ex said soon! She has already stopped using her contraception at the beginning of August 2010. She became pregnant mid of October 2010. But what is it that one can be persuaded to believe that there is something better out there? Is there anything better out there? I've had enough of her; she came to me 4 times while drunk after we broke up. We had sex and she used to tell me that she adores me and that I am incredibly smart person and she loves me. But I had to cut her out because it's not enough. She is not like that when she is sober; she is arrogant lady who ignores me when I talk about the reality, about the two of us. That's why I cut her out. She was out at a bar Thursday night, a friend of mine was to retrieve his friend from the bar. He met my ex there and greeted her with a lady she works with. They were drinking beer. My friend and I were at training, he said he had seen my ex and he said she looked very tired. I was surprised that she was out drinking week days now. Something new! And she was out drinking every weekend five week on count. My friends, you cannot drink away your problems? Can you? I hope she will realize that everything she did to herself and to me was wrong. I will forgive her because I'm still in love with her. But I cannot change her! Because she will not listen to me! My words are too cheap for her. And those stupid girls she works with have much meaning for her now. I stand for my choice and are either at work or training, I cried enough. Although I think of her every day. How long Will She keeps doing what she is doing now? Taking ideas from someone over glass of wine, or beer and inhale cigarettes...It’s crazy. I appreciate all of you who participate this conversation. You are unique. Thanks to you all [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT] Edited March 29, 2011 by gentz miss spelling
Fufu Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Whether she is confusing or not is not a matter, she doesn't want to be with you and it's good that you step back and not for her but for yourself, you have done more than enough from your part.
Author gentz Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 Hi Fufu I know that I trusted someone until she bursted the evilness of her darkside. Have you ever heard how women can behave when they are pregnant? did you ever heard that they can dislike you? Sometimes she could cry of nothing. She told me she was at work and start crying once, it sounded crazy to me. I asked her why? she told me her body was makin her syk, she had swollen nippels and sore breasts. Still what I dont get is the way she behaved after the abortion. The parting and drinkin. I think its very tough for her now. And time will reveal whats next.
poorguy Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 WOW!! Unlike male friends are to guys, girl friends have much more input and much more power over there female friends, they can sway them towards you and from you, most likely if you were a jerk, your ex couldn't stay away from you, but females have a way of getting there friends away from good guys. (Long story would take forever to explain) Anyways, bassically her friends have been brainwashing her into being single, and living the single life, partying, saying that kids or a kid would weigh down her life. They've poisoned her against you. This has to hurt, because not only did you try to avoid her getting pregnant, but she wanted to be, and not only do you have to live with being hurt over the breakup, u now also are hurt by her wanting to abort your baby. This is soooo true. I've had this very thing happen. Their friends have such a HUGE influence over them as females. It only takes a few suggestions from their friends to begin to bend their perception of you and the relationship in general. My last ex became really good friends with an older coworker of hers. The older coworker was all about partying it up and dragged my girl right into to it. It was as if she cast a spell over my girlfriend. It really ruined the relationship as a whole. This though is otherwise often times known as G.I.G.S. Those BS relationships don't last forever once they get tired of living the party life. If you stick around and keep conact with her believe it or not their friendships will become stronger. If you just go away so nobody can badmouth you or talk sh_t about you or what not all of them will fall on their face eventually. That's about the time when you'll hear from her again for being such an idiot-and she probably will be tired of letting other think for her too!!!!
Author gentz Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 This is soooo true. I've had this very thing happen. Their friends have such a HUGE influence over them as females. It only takes a few suggestions from their friends to begin to bend their perception of you and the relationship in general. My last ex became really good friends with an older coworker of hers. The older coworker was all about partying it up and dragged my girl right into to it. It was as if she cast a spell over my girlfriend. It really ruined the relationship as a whole. This though is otherwise often times known as G.I.G.S. Those BS relationships don't last forever once they get tired of living the party life. If you stick around and keep conact with her believe it or not their friendships will become stronger. If you just go away so nobody can badmouth you or talk sh_t about you or what not all of them will fall on their face eventually. That's about the time when you'll hear from her again for being such an idiot-and she probably will be tired of letting other think for her too!!!! Where u were all this time Poorguy? Its so ture what you just said. And thats why I cut her out. Like she told me when I asked my ex: what she and her coworkers been up to? She said "girltalk" "Gossip talk" she said than. I was taking, **** they properly was talkin about other people and offcouse me. Hmm I said. I knew as much I stayed around then they will have some **** to talk about me and keep me down. But by the time I disappear from the radar, than it ain't no **** to talk about. I havent seen my ex for two weeks or even talked to her. Last time it was three weeks ago when met her accedentelly and asked her to give me back my vacuum cleaner. And She dont wanne give it to me. So I bought new one. She still have my pictures and other stuff, but she dont wanna give me back. hehe... Poorguy what you said is so real. I'm storger than people who are so cruel, and let them live with bad conscience and feel guilty. Becouse they make them selfs happy and they feel happy about destroying other life.
ResetReality Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I CANNOT STAND THIS! The single friends issue always get's on my damn nerves. I think this helped influence my ex quite a bit over time. She has NOTHIN, but single friends and some of them, not all, but some would say dumb sh*t like "I just don't think you guys are going to work out". These are the ones that usually didn't know a damn thing about me or how good I treated her. Don't get me started....... Man, I hear you loud and clear! my ex gf's friends posioned her against me BIG TIME, her friends never really liked the way I looked, You should of seen them all come out the wood work when my ex posted "single" on Facebook! bunch of snakes, they never had the bottle to say anything to my face! cowards, ****ing cowards, including my ex! she can eat **** for all i care! the OP needs to think whether you want to spend time with someone who is easliy convinced into following what people say?
Fufu Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Hi Fufu I know that I trusted someone until she bursted the evilness of her darkside. Have you ever heard how women can behave when they are pregnant? did you ever heard that they can dislike you? Sometimes she could cry of nothing. She told me she was at work and start crying once, it sounded crazy to me. I asked her why? she told me her body was makin her syk, she had swollen nippels and sore breasts. Still what I dont get is the way she behaved after the abortion. The parting and drinkin. I think its very tough for her now. And time will reveal whats next. I have a ex-colleague is pregnant and indeed sometimes they can be rather moody, but trust me, she didn't do what your ex-gf did to hurt her own husband. As much as we, women go through hormones changes, mood swings in pregnancy or abortion, we don't let this kind of happening to make into excuses to leave our true love. It may or may not be tough for her, however, you are definitely being hard and tough on yourself. It's time to loosen a little and start to love yourself more. Time will tell As my signature says, Time will tell, sit back, relax and enjoy our lives.
Author gentz Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 I have a ex-colleague is pregnant and indeed sometimes they can be rather moody, but trust me, she didn't do what your ex-gf did to hurt her own husband. As much as we, women go through hormones changes, mood swings in pregnancy or abortion, we don't let this kind of happening to make into excuses to leave our true love. It may or may not be tough for her, however, you are definitely being hard and tough on yourself. It's time to loosen a little and start to love yourself more. Time will tell As my signature says, Time will tell, sit back, relax and enjoy our lives. Hi, What do you mean by being hard and tough on yourself? and start love yourself more???
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