hopesndreams Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I'd just like to try and get an idea how picky or unpicky most women are. Thanks. For just physically, 5%.
Woggle Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I have heard a few women support Chris Brown but none that I would ever be interested in if I were single.
somedude81 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 It's interesting to see just how much people will twist themselves into pretzels to remain a victim. Looks like those evil stupid women aren't the only ones with some growing up to do. You are aware that almost every woman who posted in this thread admitted to being very picky... I think guys have a more yes-no attraction style while with women it's more of a sliding scale of 'hot much convincing do I need.' That's actually what I'm beginning to understand A woman's default reaction to a man is no. Only with some special circumstances can she be convinced to change her answer. There are very few men that I WANT - like maybe one in a hundred, and I then I later realize through gossip that these are the same fellows that have hundreds of women tripping over themselves... ::sigh:: That also supports myself that women are more similar to each other then they are different, at least as their tastes are concerned. If one girl thinks a guy is hot, most likely a ton of other women thinks he is too. But there's a much larger percentage of guys, say 15% of the population, to whom I'm attracted enough to fall-for were they to actually pursue me. Wow, so if 100 guys in your age range pursue you, you'd only be attracted to about 15 of them?
Duckduckgoose Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Unless I was at a REAL freakshow I would say about 35%-50%. A lot of the guys where I live are fatties, which puts me off. That's where the 35% comes from. All in all about 50%, I am pretty laid back and open about what I find attractive in a man.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Guys talk about looks more than women, but it's mostly talk. Most guys will settle easily. Agreed. While I would love an Emily VanCamp or a Avril Lavigne, the chances of me dating someone that beautiful is probably slim. I'd settle, most definitely, if everything else was great in our relationship.
proactivedreamer Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Well, I am going to have to say I find about 5-10% attractive, and that includes other factors such as, personality, character, and so forth. I can be a bit picky if I am just looking for some casual sex but if I want something serious, I tend to go for "artsy" types and intellectuals. I, especially, love a guy who is artsy, educated, and a globetrotter. I have to say I have a thing for foreign guys as well. My last two boyfriends weren't American, so...I kinda hope I date another European in the future. My most recent ex was Swiss(French-speaking) and he made me melt, god I miss him! But well, I just like the temperament of Europeans I guess, and they seem a bit more cultured than we, Americans.
tigressA Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Just physically? It's highly dependent on location for me. Where I'm living now, I'd put it at about 5% or even less. Walking around in a larger city, it jumps up to about 15%.
sniffys Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Looks arent important to women .. BUT i think "younger" women may prefer handsome or really good looking guys, thats why a lot of heartache (since good looking men usually want more than one lady). when i was younger, it was all about the looks. now im older and i know better. looks are very temporary. as they say, beauty fades..annoying is forever.
kalikula Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I agree it's really difficult for me to even think of looks alone. Even if it's just someone I want to hook up with they have to have a personality I find attractive (Social, outgoing, smart, relaxed, confident, has his sh*t together). No matter how hot a guy is I'm just not interested if he's super socially awkward or doesn't have any friends.
pandagirl Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I honestly cant get it up for a guy unless I like his personality. However, I'd say maybe I find 5-10% of men to my aesthetic tastes. A way smaller percentage once I actually talk to them.
threebyfate Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 It kind of works like this for me, in this order: Intellectual connection.Emotional connection.Physical...errr..connection.I can appreciate a guy aesthetically but until the above happens, the plumbing doesn't work or stops working. Aesthetically pleasing, possibly 10 - 15%. Where it gets to the level of wanting physical intimacy, less than 1%.
somedude81 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Wow, this thread is really depressing to read. I guess some things are better off unknown.
SteveC80 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Wow, this thread is really depressing to read. I guess some things are better off unknown. Its always been known most women are into the same small group of Men
nezbo Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Dark hair and height are mandatory. So, 10%. Damn that height factor. I'm around average girl height (but male)... I tend to only go for girls that are shorter than me, which reduces my options by 50% Lucky I'm not any shorter.
TheBigQuestion Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Wow, this thread is really depressing to read. I guess some things are better off unknown. It may be depressing for you because you, by your own admission, aren't picky at all. You see, when I was reading through this thread, the numbers being thrown around seemed pretty low. Then I realized that I probably don't usually find I'm attracted to more than 25% of women around a reasonable age range. I was single for 3 years because the women I liked either ended up screwing me over after a short relationship or they were horrible witches. Likewise, many of the women who liked me were not my cup of tea physically. It is only in LS land that guys seem to not be picky at all. As a general rule, I see people pairing up with those of a similar physical attraction level. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe science corroborates that statement.
Chicago_Guy Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I know I'm not a woman. But I have researched this alot. Looks have SO LITTLE to do with a woman being with a man. If there's 1. a good looking unassertive momma's boy with no social skills or 2. an ugly but charming & confident type guy that is in control of himself and a woman had to be with one of them The woman would prefer 2. By a long shot Looks can help the initial attraction, but they can't sustain the relationship. Good personality and charm can solidify the initial attraction, and keep it growing forever A lot of women would stay single rather than be with either of those guys. For a lot of women, it won't really matter how charming and confident a guy is if he is really ugly.
Author Ross PK Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 Hmm, I initially read the title of the thread wrong. Thought it said "women, what percentage of guys would you say found YOU attractive?" Might make for an interesting discussion someday... Sorry for the diversion! Back on the current topic, I differentiate between finding a man physically attractive and being physically attracted to him. Of the entire male population, I'd put about 45-50% in the former category. Of that narrowed percentage, only about 10-15% would fall into the latter, once my preferences for a man I actually want to jump are factored in. Yeah, what I mean is being physically attracted to him.
Eeyore79 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 There aren't many men who I look at and go "Oh wow, he's gorgeous!". It happens maybe a couple times a year. However there are a high proportion of men (I guess at least half of the men in my age group) who are nice looking and non-repulsive to the extent that I'd be willing to have sex with them if their personality was suitable. There are even some men who I don't find physically attractive at all, but who I'd be willing to have sex with if they had a great personality. Women apply a far wider range of criteria to assessing a man's attractiveness; intelligence, status, wealth, confidence, personality, and various other things are equally as important as looks. A guy only has to be non-repulsive looking, and looks don't really matter so much beyond that. As others have said, it's all about personality. I wouldn't even be interested in a gorgeous looking guy if he didn't match up in terms of personality. On the other hand, I've previously met guys who I wasn't attracted to at all, and ended up dating them once I got to know their personality.
Lucky_One Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Duckduckgoose and Eeyore, I was starting to think that something was wrong with me! If we are judging attractiveness from guys I would see walking down the street or on the Metro or something (just to look at), I would say I find about 35% attractive. If we are judging attractiveness of guys solely as the "OMG feature", I would say probably about 5%. If we are judging attractiveness of men to men that I find attractive after meeting and talking to them and getting a chance to look at his pretty eyes or cute dimples or that he has perfect razor stubble or legs to die for, that might turn into 50%. But I happen to think that nearly everyone has some physical feature that is great, even if the rest of the package isn't so keen. Hair, eyes, chin, chest, butt, legs, hands, etc. (I also tend to be pretty open-minded. I am white, but there are plenty of guys of other races/ethnicities that I find attractive. If I was ONLY interested in white anglo-Saxon men, then the actual pool of men for this non-scientific survey would drop by about 35% for the geographic area I am in (counting in black, Asian, and Hispanic men). So MY figures would turn into a range from 15-35%. So don't get TOO depressed about what you are reading - just remember that "men" might not mean"ALL men" to the posters here.)
somedude81 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Its always been known most women are into the same small group of Men I just wasn't aware how small. Only being into the same 5% is just crazy. It may be depressing for you because you, by your own admission, aren't picky at all. No, it's depressing because I know I'm not highly valued. So all those women who are only into the top 10% of men will all reject me if I try. My personality just isn't good enough to overcome the negatives of being short and having an average face/body. I'm not picky because it would be crazy to filter out a potential a potential girl for a minor reason. Also I rarely get close enough to women to see what kind a person she really is.
Eeyore79 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 My personality just isn't good enough to overcome the negatives of being short and having an average face/body. This sounds like the essence of the problem imo. You lack self esteem and confidence, and women can smell that a mile off. Take a look around you - is your personality really that poor in comparison with other people, or are you being overly self-critical?
Lucky_One Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 SomeDude, did you read my post (the bottom part, anyway) about the actual numbers here? Don't let some proclaimed "5%" freak you out; that really might not be as bad as it sounds. As for height, some guys only like girls with big boobs, in which case, they would not choose to date me. And that's ok, because I happen to love my breasts just the way they are and wouldn't change them for the world. Some women only like men in a certain height, and that's ok for them, too. For what it's worth, I like guys to be on the shorter side. Both my H's were my height (5'6"), and I LOVE that. We fit together perfectly spooning, no matter who is front, and we can both fit on the couch for naps on Sundays, and no one's neck hurts if we kiss standing up or dancing. Yay for shorter men!!
somedude81 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 This sounds like the essence of the problem imo. You lack self esteem and confidence, and women can smell that a mile off. Take a look around you - is your personality really that poor in comparison with other people, or are you being overly self-critical? I'm over-analyzing. Trying to find a reason why, that would explain my troubles. I don't think that I have a bad personality, I'd think the opposite actually. The problem is that it's not dynamic enough to compensate for my physical appearance. If the average guy is 5'10 with an ordinary face and a basic non-fat body is a 5; then I'm a 4. The only way to compensate for that is to be super rich, or have a killer personality. I have neither. As for height, some guys only like girls with big boobs, in which case, they would not choose to date me. And that's ok, because I happen to love my breasts just the way they are and wouldn't change them for the world. Some women only like men in a certain height, and that's ok for them, too. For what it's worth, I like guys to be on the shorter side. Both my H's were my height (5'6"), and I LOVE that. We fit together perfectly spooning, no matter who is front, and we can both fit on the couch for naps on Sundays, and no one's neck hurts if we kiss standing up or dancing. Yay for shorter men!! I am 5'6 and love your attitude. The problem is that most women don't appear to share it. Most girls I meet are my height or a little bit shorter, and that's perfect for me for the reasons you mentioned. But the rest of the world doesn't see it.
O'Malley Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 OP, I think there's a difference between objectively looking at a man and thinking he is good looking (which could be objective or subjective), versus looking at a man and finding him attractive. I agree. Aesthetic wise, at the most around 10%, and I'm not thinking in terms of the standard celebrity meatball either. The other 90% are somebody else's definition of attractive, and simply not my type. Those men that I feel chemistry towards and actually desire, around 1-2%. It's worked for me so far. We all have preferences that likely don't make sense to anyone but ourselves.
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