Women, what percentage of guys would you say you find physically attractive?

[Ross PK]

I'd just like to try and get an idea how picky or unpicky most women are.

 

Thanks.

[tryingtocurerj]

I know I'm not a woman. But I have researched this alot.

 

Looks have SO LITTLE to do with a woman being with a man.

 

If there's 1. a good looking unassertive momma's boy with no social skills

 

or 2. an ugly but charming & confident type guy that is in control of himself

 

and a woman had to be with one of them

 

The woman would prefer 2. By a long shot

 

Looks can help the initial attraction, but they can't sustain the relationship.

 

Good personality and charm can solidify the initial attraction, and keep it growing forever

[Wolf18]

I know I'm not a woman. But I have researched this alot.

 

Looks have SO LITTLE to do with a woman being with a man.

 

If there's 1. a good looking unassertive momma's boy with no social skills

 

or 2. an ugly but charming & confident type guy that is in control of himself

 

and a woman had to be with one of them

 

The woman would prefer 2. By a long shot

 

Looks can help the initial attraction, but they can't sustain the relationship.

 

Good personality and charm can solidify the initial attraction, and keep it growing forever

 

 

Your research is wrong.

 

First of all people are rarely that cut and dry. I know very few beautiful people who have completely repulsive personalities, and few ugly people that have perfect charm and confidence.

 

The truth is people all have pros and cons. And while they do exist, it's pretty rare to find an extremely dispicable "hot guy" and a saintly, perfectly smooth unattractive guy. 9 out of 10 times women would rather work with the 'hot guy' to try and overcome his deficiencies over be with the guy whose personality is already pretty good. What good is personality if you can't even get your foot in the door and no woman will see it?

[SummersEve]

All adults guys I would see just walking down the street, just straight up is he attractive or not, I guess maybe 25%.

Edited March 28, 2011 by SummersEve

[Wolf18]

I agree with the poster who said looks aren't the most important thing that attracts women, generally. When you are talking about half the world population, it will have to be kind of vague, but overall it is no secret that men are much more into women's looks specifically, whereas with women it's more, I dunno, status in a way, maybe, or overall package. More diffuse, that's for sure.

 

So okay, then, let's define "attractive" as overall package, as in "Would you do him?"

 

I am married so I guess I better say only one, lol. But if not for that, that would vary widely depend on what I would want him for and my level of sex drive at the time. Attractive enough for a long term relationship would be more complicated, probably about one percent. Attractive enough for sex, 5% on a slow day (haha) and um, 80% on a busy day. I know because I was actually bored and dying for it waiting at the airport once and counted. I was horrified at my mental sluttiness, lol.

 

Okay now to stop making a simple question into a research paper, all adults guys I would see just walking down the street, just straight up is he attractive or not, I guess 25%.

 

It depends on culture. If you live in a third world country where there aren't enough jobs for both men and women, women are far more flexible about their taste in men because they depend on them for food and shelter.

 

In America where women are currently employed and make money at a higher rate than men (due to the economic recession that has hit men the hardest), women care about looks as much as men or more.

[SmileFace]

How do I actually calculate this percentage? I find many guys physically attractive but I won't date 75% of the guys I find physically attractive. Basing it on physical only.

[LexiB]

Hmm, I initially read the title of the thread wrong. Thought it said "women, what percentage of guys would you say found YOU attractive?" Might make for an interesting discussion someday...

 

Sorry for the diversion!

 

Back on the current topic, I differentiate between finding a man physically attractive and being physically attracted to him. Of the entire male population, I'd put about 45-50% in the former category. Of that narrowed percentage, only about 10-15% would fall into the latter, once my preferences for a man I actually want to jump are factored in.

Edited March 28, 2011 by LexiB

[stepka]

I'm going to narrow this category down to men my age, but I guess I'll lump married men in there too. I'd say about 10-15%. I'm pretty picky, but there is another category of men that I find somewhat less attractive, but if they have the other qualities I'm looking for (which he would have to), then it goes up to about 50%. Assuming that we're talking about physical attraction only and I don't know whether the man has those qualities or not.

 

Contrary to studies, women are attracted to looks, but they don't matter quite as much as they do to men. Things that would be a deal breaker for men might not be for women. Anyway, my theory is that we're all most attracted to good health, which is right.

[Star Gazer]

I'm gonna go with 15-20%.

[Macaw]

First of all people are rarely that cut and dry.

 

I agree.

I know very few beautiful people who have completely repulsive personalities, and few ugly people that have perfect charm and confidence.

 

Is absence of evidence, evidence of absence? Most of the highly attractive people I met have ****ed up personalities. 50% or more of the subjects they bring up are about talking down on something or someone. I can't say I've met anyone that was really ugly though, so I cannot comment on that.

 

The truth is people all have pros and cons. And while they do exist, it's pretty rare to find an extremely dispicable "hot guy"

 

Now remove the word "extremely" from that sentence and say it again. See if your point still stands.

 

9 out of 10 times women would rather work with the 'hot guy' to try and overcome his deficiencies over be with the guy whose personality is already pretty good.

 

Your whole comparison in this last sentence seems to be centered around a "hot guy" with an "ok" personality against a very ugly guy with the magnetic personality of a famous celebrity. Between a choice of great/average and terrible/great, of course they'll prefer the former rather than the latter. A more fair comparison would be an average (not repulsive in any way) guy with a magnetic personality vs a hot stud with an ok persona.

 

Anyways. This is indeed a good topic and I'd like to hear more inputs from the ladies.

[Confusedalways]

Guys who I find attractive that I would want to date... probably like, 20%.

 

There's another 10-20% who are definitely attractive people, but not my type. Not sure if I'm conveying the difference properly, but there definitely is one.

[daphne]

Guys that I find attractive in general - maybe 20%. Guys that I am attracted to, maybe 5-10%. This is, however, not solely based on physical looks but personality as well.

 

This is probably why I'm single.

[Bj099235]

Guys talk about looks more than women, but it's mostly talk. Most guys will settle easily.

[Macaw]

Guys talk about looks more than women, but it's mostly talk. Most guys will settle easily.

 

Ain't that a fact.

[SteveC80]

Women are as into looks as much if not more into looks then Men contrary to popular belief

 

If youre a real good looking guy you can get away with anything

 

Ive heard women forgive Chris Brown for beating Rihanna becuase hes "cute"

[somedude81]

Steve, I think you mean, "Women are way more into looks than men contrary to popular belief."

 

Sure men make a big deal about a hot girl, but he's also very likely to go after the plain Janes. Women are much less vocal about hot guys, but they'll be damned if they go after an ordinary dude, unless he's super rich or Mr. popular. Even then it might not be enough to fulfill their, "chemistry."

[sweetjasmine]

Women are much less vocal about hot guys, but they'll be damned if they go after an ordinary dude, unless he's super rich or Mr. popular. Even then it might not be enough to fulfill their, "chemistry."

 

Yes, that must be why only 5% of all men on the planet are married, right?

[Woggle]

Does any man actually want a woman that find Chris Brown attractive? I don't think that most women do but are the women like that really a loss to the dating pool? Why stress over that?

[whichwayisup]

Women are as into looks as much if not more into looks then Men contrary to popular belief

 

If youre a real good looking guy you can get away with anything

 

Ive heard women forgive Chris Brown for beating Rihanna becuase hes "cute"

 

I've never heard this. Wow if this is even close to true, I'm shocked.

 

I'll take that a step further, if a PERSON is real good looking they can get away with alot. I used to work with a woman, drop dead gorgeous, but lazy as heck. She would pull the beauty/flirt card to get out of work early or come in late. She was the ONLY person in the whole place who never got into trouble. Bosses and managers would allow her to get away with stuff that noone else could. It isn't gender specific.

[somedude81]

Yes, that must be why only 5% of all men on the planet are married, right?

Thankfully women grow up and eventually settle for an ordinary dude. Then there is still a huge chance that she's not actually attracted to the man she married...

 

That's probably why so many women cheat.

[New Again]

I've never heard this. Wow if this is even close to true, I'm shocked.

 

I'll take that a step further, if a PERSON is real good looking they can get away with alot. I used to work with a woman, drop dead gorgeous, but lazy as heck. She would pull the beauty/flirt card to get out of work early or come in late. She was the ONLY person in the whole place who never got into trouble. Bosses and managers would allow her to get away with stuff that noone else could. It isn't gender specific.

 

Yup. I think this is even a generally accepted fact, grounded in research.

 

OP, I think there's a difference between objectively looking at a man and thinking he is good looking (which could be objective or subjective), versus looking at a man and finding him attractive. Some people are getting to that when they comment on confidence over other observable traits.

[sweetjasmine]

Does any man actually want a woman that find Chris Brown attractive? I don't think that most women do but are the women like that really a loss to the dating pool? Why stress over that?

 

Exactly.

 

I've never heard anyone voice that opinion, for what it's worth.

 

It strikes me as kind of pointless to argue whether women or men place more stock in looks. If there were an absolute definitive answer that one gender valued looks more than the other, would it change anyone's life at all? Would it matter? No, it wouldn't. Not to mention, there's more to attraction than just looks.

 

I personally think people tend to define attractiveness on a comparative basis, anyway, so I'm not so sure how useful the responses are going to be.

 

Thankfully women grow up and eventually settle for an ordinary dude. Then there is still a huge chance that she's not actually attracted to the man she married...

 

That's probably why so many women cheat.

 

It's interesting to see just how much people will twist themselves into pretzels to remain a victim. Looks like those evil stupid women aren't the only ones with some growing up to do.

[cerridwen]

Dark hair and height are mandatory.

So, 10%.

[lolo1234]

Based on pure looks: my age -- 15%, as age Goes up the number goes down and as age goes down the percentage goes up

 

But honestly it's not just pure looks for me. I have met guys who were super hot amd as I got to know them they lost some points. And I've known guys who were average and as I got to know them they completely rocked my world.

[Knittress]

I think guys have a more yes-no attraction style while with women it's more of a sliding scale of 'hot much convincing do I need.'

 

There are very few men that I WANT - like maybe one in a hundred, and I then I later realize through gossip that these are the same fellows that have hundreds of women tripping over themselves... ::sigh:: But there's a much larger percentage of guys, say 15% of the population, to whom I'm attracted enough to fall-for were they to actually pursue me.