cantunderstand Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Basically a week ago, had my "girlfriend" tell me that she lost feelings for me. Its been a hard week but I ended up taking a 3 day vacation to clear my head a bit and up until yesterday was doing quite well. Yesterday after not hearing from her for 4 days, got a text asking "if I was still town" because I'm leaving in a couple of days to go look for work. I decided to not respond immediately like I usually do and give it 20 min or so. After about 20 min I said "I sure am" and that was it. 3 hours went by and I heard no response from her as to why she texted or anything. Finally I caved again and sent another text asking if she wanted to grab a drink or something. Another hour goes by and she finally responds saying, "Well i wanted to do lunch but by the time you texted back I made other plans, how long are you in town for?" I replied by saying "till Tuesday, are you free tomorrow?" It's been almost 24 hours since I've heard from her. I can't figure out why she would text me and then not text me back at all. Can Anyone explain this to me? I'm just pretty angry that I text her back all the time immediately and the one time I don't and I wait a measly 20 min, she already makes other plans! UGH!
geegirl Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 (edited) Basically a week ago, had my "girlfriend" tell me that she lost feelings for me. Its been a hard week but I ended up taking a 3 day vacation to clear my head a bit and up until yesterday was doing quite well. Yesterday after not hearing from her for 4 days, got a text asking "if I was still town" because I'm leaving in a couple of days to go look for work. I decided to not respond immediately like I usually do and give it 20 min or so. After about 20 min I said "I sure am" and that was it. 3 hours went by and I heard no response from her as to why she texted or anything. Finally I caved again and sent another text asking if she wanted to grab a drink or something. Another hour goes by and she finally responds saying, "Well i wanted to do lunch but by the time you texted back I made other plans, how long are you in town for?" I replied by saying "till Tuesday, are you free tomorrow?" It's been almost 24 hours since I've heard from her. I can't figure out why she would text me and then not text me back at all. Can Anyone explain this to me? I'm just pretty angry that I text her back all the time immediately and the one time I don't and I wait a measly 20 min, she already makes other plans! UGH! Read the Rubberband post. It's manipulation. She knows how to play you. She's keeping you on a string. Don't read so much into what it means but why she does it. You allow it. 20 minutes and she made plans so quickly. She baited you and you bit. My question to you is: If she has lost her feelings for you, why are you talking to her? You think miraculously her feelings have come back and she is texting you so that's why you engage? No. She's game playing. You called it yourself. So why are you being her playmate? Also, men play games too. Edited March 28, 2011 by geegirl
SummersEve Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Honestly, I don't think this is a female thing, a guy would do the same. I don't think she's playing games either. Put yourself in the place of being the one who had broken up with someone~ Like this, maybe? She broke up with you, so we can assume she's not that interested. However, sure, she must have liked something about you, and still feels some void where you used to be, although obviously not enough to keep her there. Maybe she was looking to go out to lunch or something, had a passing fond thought of you. She called, you didn't answer. She called the next person on her list. Then you call back, and want to set a future date. She thinks, meh, not really into it enough to set a big future date, and it starts to feel too much like starting it back up with you again. The moment's gone, and she never wanted anything more than a quick lunch anyway. From your end, probably with strong interest, it feels like she's playing cat and mouse torture with you, possibly listening to your return call and cackling maniacally, snatching back the chance at reuniting that she had dangled in front of you. From her end, it was just a passing thought, she doesn't really care enough to be tied down to a specific time and date in the future, she was just bored at that moment and wanted somebody to go out to lunch with. That's my take on it. Sorry.
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