archer91 Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Hi to you all guzz!!I have just come back from a vacation where I spent most of my time with a girl(my friend since highschool) I am still just on the courting stage but I really love her and I have said it to her so many times. The thing is, I don't know what to decide if I should pursue her or not. She's giving me a chance, and is willing to be on a long distance relationship if I really really prove to her that I love her, which I really do.But sometimes, I´m having some problems communicating with her,(like both of us being busy) ,I do text her everyday,but I don't know if the little amount of time is enough to court her. I know it sounds like this is not the right time for us, but I really love my friend and she's starting to have feelings for me. And lastly, what do you guys think I should to do stop missing her so badly? Thanks!!!
folieadeux Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 You say you have trouble communicating with her but you have no problem saying "I love you" to a girl you're not even in a relationship with yet? Nothing makes sense about that. You need to take things alot slower than you have been. If you do decide to eventually make a go of an LDR in the future, just know going in that it takes an enormous amount of time, energy, dedication, and fiscal planning on both sides to make things work. They aren't for everyone. If you don't think both of you will be able to handle that, I wouldn't even bother.
Author archer91 Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 thanks for the reply. when I wrote that I have trouble communicating with her, i meant that we don't have so much time talking over the phone, texts, etc. we live in different countries now and there´s about 7 hours of time difference. We are really close as friends and I really had so much fun going out with her during my vacation which was about for a month. And it all happened just last week. I don't have any problems telling her what I feel because she already knows it for a very long time (since we were hs, now we are on our 20's). Things got pretty messy back then ( 4 years ago) because I left the country, and she started going out with someone. Now, we are both singles again and want to know if the two of us have a chance to be on a relationship. But you have a point there, I am taking things too fast, maybe because of the fact that I don't want to lose her again and I love her so much. i don't know if I'm being selfish, but i know that she feels something for me but I also think she's afraid to make a go of on an LDR. And there lies the problem as you said, both sides should be willing to work it out. My question now is, I know that the smartest thing to do is that we remain friends for now, but what should I do to "suppress" these feelings?
folieadeux Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 You can't supress them and you shouldn't; they're valid and very relevant. However, like I said before, I think the way to go (when interacting with her) is to take things slow and not bombard her until you've both established what you are. The average person might get intimidated by hearing those words at this point. Enjoy your time together and keep things light. The only way to know if things will work is to keep on keeping on. You'll know right away if the pair of you won't be able to manage the distance together and then you can go from there.
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