heartbroken85 Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Me my ex had been together for 3 years and then last week (out of the blue) he said that we didn't want the same things and that we should take a short break. He made me move out of "our" house and told me not to contact him. I am so devastated right now and nothing is making me feel better. Everyone keeps telling me that he's being selfish and I shouldn't think about him anymore. It is so hard to let go though. I keep hoping that we can get back together, but I just feel that there should be no hope in this matter. He has changed his status on facebook and deleted the photo album of us. I know I need to get over this, but I just feel so hurt letting go of the person I love very much.
butterfly2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Wow that was COLD of him. What lead up to that? Anything you can think of? No one can tell you what to do. You have feelings for him and 3 years is a long time to have feelings for someone and become attached. But him kicking you out all of a sudden and handling things this way is so wrong. You don't deserve to be treated that way. I told my man to leave too and I feel terrible. I asked him to come back but he won't even talk to me except if it is something other than our relationship. We have gone through this before so I'm sure he is just as tired of it as I am. Has this ever happened with him before?
DarkAngel7 Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 That must be rough...especially because it was out of the blue. You didn't notice any changes? Let everything out, don't hold back your feelings. Embrace them, listen to music that lets them out. I would say go to the gym or do something of that nature. Make yourself exhausted. Write in a journal. Try reaching for the most positive place you can get. Slowly day by day keep reaching...he said break? It sounds like a break up, but you probably know which one it is. Work on yourself is all I can say.
Flowerzzz Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Aw, crap...So sorry you are so sad. It is horrible being dumped out of the blue after so many years. My ex and I were also together 3 years. he broke up with me out of the blue in September. I can only tell you what i learned--don't try to be friends with him. It won't work. It will get ugly and you will be in more pain in the end. After 4 months of being in denial, trying to be his friend, and hanging out with my ex, he started dating a "friend" of ours. I went no contact at that point and it was like the breakup had just happened. Go no contact right now and you will be able to grieve, heal, and love life again. The first weeks are frickin rough but I feel so much better. You have the power!!! Create your own happiness. He made the choice to not be in your life. Now you can make the choice to live for you. Delete facebook if you have it. exercise. read. take bubble baths. hang with family. don't drink. erase everything you have that reminds you of him. Learn to enjoy being alone and get to know yourself again. Keep a journal!!!
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