neiu Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 So I guess I'm really here to talk things out. It's been awhile since I've been to LS to post anything but it has helped in the past and I'm hoping it will help again. Well this girl I work with I've known for 2 years because of work. Awesome girl and I would say that we got along well instantly. She would invite me out to her place after work for drinks and dinner at times. We would go to concerts either alone or with her roommate. Funny thing was she had a bf at the time which she never brought up until half a year later and continued to rarely mention him. However, it still didn't seem to make that big of a difference as we still did things together. Either way she had become a really good friend. She broke up with her bf in the fall which she called to tell me. Since then I guess I've been developing real feelings for her and I know it's dumb cause it would be a work relationship. I've heard her openly say that she would never get involved in one. Recently I had asked her if she wanted to go to a concert and she agreed. However she drank too much beforehand and was unable to go. But as we were out she randomly brought up the fact that many people at work constantly urge her to date me and that was pretty much all she had to say. She followed up by saying she's kind of seeing this guy but she's not really sure about him and wants my opinion/approval of him. I don't think she remembers this conversation. Her bday is coming up and I'm supposed to go out with her and some other coworkers to celebrate. She also asked me to come out to her bday with just her friends for her actual bday. So I'm confused as to what has happened. Yeah people say having a really good guy-girl relationship kept platonic doesn't work but my best friend is a girl and never have we had intimate feelings for each other. So I'm not sure what to do about her because it's not like I can quit so easily and I can't exactly completely avoid her. Frankly I don't think I can go to her bday celebrations because my heart and mind can't take it. I don't want to just not say anything and go NC but I feel as I will have to go NC. What I'm wondering is should I tell her how I feel? Right now I'm thinking that I tell her how I feel and see what she has to say. Though I'm sure she's going to say that it's not a good idea which I am prepared for as I'm mentally ready to go NC. I just want her to understand why I'm going to be a jerk from now on and not talk to her or see her. It's just complicated as I do regard her as a best friend but nonetheless a coworker. At the rate this is going I think I'm going to lose someone very important in my life which is going to be really disappointing. Anyway thanks for reading and hopefully someone who has experienced this can help me out cause I've been going crazy for weeks and getting crazier each day over this.
iJester Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Tell her how you feel, and ask her out. If she says no, then ask her to stop contact with you, unless it's absolutely necessary for work.
Author neiu Posted March 28, 2011 Author Posted March 28, 2011 I'm wondering if I should do this before her bday which is on this saturday. Probably the sober the better?
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