krystal1234 Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Been seeing this guy now for over a month...we have spent some really great quality time together....yes, we did have sex recently. There has been no discussion about what our relationship "is" or where it is going to go...we have just been having fun. So on Friday he spent the night and didn't leave until the next morning (late)....even in the morning we had a great time sharing intimate thoughts, etc...then he left with a kiss and hug. Usually he would be the first one to email and let me know what a great time he had, but I didn't get an email so on Sunday night late so I decided to take the lead (for the first time) and tell him thanks, etc. He usually emails me though an online dating site, so I signed in to email him through there and noticed he had been active in 24 hours...that means he had been on after he left my house on Sat. I know this may seem like a dumb thread, because honestly there is no committment...(yet) and I still have an account and do go on myself and look too. Is he still shopping? My shopping has tamed a bit since him....I guess in only a month I don't see why not.....Any opinions?
utterer of lies Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 You might just ask him and talk? But he probably sees you as ****buddy.
Hules Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Honestly krystal, If hes been seeing you for over a month and is still fishing around on dating websites he probably doesn't see you as LTR material and thinks of you as a FWB. The girl I'm currently seeing I took down my profile before our first date out of mutual respect. I don't know if it will end up going anywhere but I do see her as potential LTR material so I want her to know I'm not screwing around behind her back. He could be thinking the same thing about you been still on the website? Maybe you should have a talk to him about it if its concerning you. Unless you are happy with the current set up you have with him.
Star Gazer Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 The way you described the situation - particularly as "just having fun" - leads me to think that he thinks of it the same way and is still shopping. Why are you sleeping with someone who's normal email address you don't even have? And why sleep with someone if you're even concerned about him still shopping? You haven't defined any boundaries...
SweetDaphne Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Krystal - You're doing the same thing he is by being online and 'shopping' regardless of whether its 'tamed' or not. You can't expect something from him if you're not willing to do it yourself. If you want to stop looking and move to a commitment or at least 'figure out' what you are, you're going to have to talk with him.
GivenUp0083 Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Krystal, go with your gut, only you know what your relationship is like and how it feels. Don't read into a website saying he's been on. He could've just checked an email he got from a girl, not necessarily means he's moving on. If you want clarification, try communicating. If you guys are a good match and good chemistry, don't let lack of communication ruin your potential for a great LTR.
kiss_andmakeup Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Do you guys go on "dates" or just lay around the house? From the sounds of your post I don't think he is serious about pursuing a relationship with you...he likes the sex but is waiting for something better to come along. If you're okay with that then great, but if not you should ditch him so you can focus your attention on someone who is more relationship minded. My boyfriend and I met on a dating site (OkCupid); within a few weeks we changed our profile statuses to "seeing someone" and within a few months we both completely removed our profiles from the site.
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