St.Dogmael Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Hi Everyone, I'm new to this forum and I have an issue that I hope some of you can weigh in on... I met a great girl at an art event about 7 weeks ago, and we agreed to meet up for coffee. That took a few weeks to coordinate; a few weeks later we had our first official "date" on St. Patrick's Day (about 10 days ago now). First date: we went for drinks and I surprised her by spontatneously kissing her on the walk to her car (she was a little caught off-guard, but reciprocated). A few days later she came to a performance that I was involved with, but as she was with a friend & I was with my peeps, we didn't get to hang out much. Second date: 5 days after the first date, we went to a wine bar and made out briefly at the end of the night. Left things open-ended and a couple days later she texted me to invite me to a thing she was going to on Saturday. I couldn't join because I had other plans, but we ended up going out on Sunday... Third date: Sunday night we went to dinner/drinks (she suggested the place), had a great conversation and made out briefly in my car afterwards. During the date she invited me to an opera (one week from today) that she has 2 tickets to. That's a week from today and as of now I'm planning on going, but I'm not sure... Here's the problem: I like this girl ALOT, and I realize I'm bringing some baggage to the table. I got out of a 7-year relationship a year ago. Although I've hooked up/hung out with a handful of girls in the last year, this is the first one that I see real potential with. But at the end of the night tonight, she told me "I have a really busy week, I'm pretty much busy every night this week, but I'll see you on Sunday." I played it cool, but it actually REALLY stung. We have great, long in-depth conversations, but the physical stuff has been minimal. I feel like I've tried to gently push it, but without much success (and I also believe "always leave 'em wanting more", so I definitely err on the side of caution). I know this girl comes from a conservative background (her father is a pastor), but I still feel like the physical intimacy (a few brief makeouts) has been disproportionate to the time we've spent conversing- almost like she's only just attracted enough to want to kiss me for a few minutes. I also hate not knowing when I'm going to see her again. She doesn't seem to have a problem with that, which really bothers me. Part of me feels like there must absolutely be something amiss here, if I'm even bothering to submit this question! On the other hand, I know that this girl is independent, legitimately super-busy and hasn't been in a lot of relationships... so maybe I'm overreacting due to my own vulnerable (rebounding) state. Thoughts?? Million thanks in advance!!
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