roman_pavluchenko Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 I saw this girl at school once and she seemed really nice, i had heard about her before but had never talked to her. She was next to the same form class as me and she would always be helping year 8's, we never talked but i'd walk past and smile at her. After 6 months of waiting around, seeing her on facebook and waiting for her to talk to me ( i knew it wouldn't happen deep down because we had never talked before) i finally started to talk to her since we started going out places in the same group. I would talk to her for hours on facebook, even whilst studying for our major exams, we both wanted to attend uni, we would simultaneously talk to eachother till 1am. I was thrilled to learn we'd be going on the same leavers trip and i asked her out then and we started dating. We only dated 2 months, she ended up dumping me, i was heart-broken. Throughout most of our relationship it appeared she didn't want to be with me. We hardly ever did things alone, it was always in a group, but when we were in a group we would always be together. Only problem is she would't kiss me or anything as she didn't feel comfortable and didn't like being the centre of attention. I was really patient with her, i figured she just didn't want to do things alone because i was her first boyfriend and she was nervous, i never pushed for anything more and accepted that she didn't like to kiss in front of others. On australia day she said she wasn't going to come (was having a gathering at my house) so i got really drunk with my friends. She did end up coming with all her friends but didn't seem to come near me much so i started drunken texting her saying things like "why arent you talking to me" i sent 3 texts which were pretty much the same. We argued for a little, i felt terrible the next day and asked if i could see her, she said no because she had family over so i bought her some flowers and left them at her front door, texted her saying "i'm really sorry for last night, look on the chair outside" she texted back later saying how sweet i was and that we could forget about it. I had an issue with her never initiating with wanting to do something, as in, i usually had to say "hey wanna catch up" so i questioned her about this, she said she would start doing it more often, exept when she did, it was always in a group and never together. Hadn't seen her since australia day and really wanted to be with her, she organised bowling with our group. Im waiting around with my friends and ring them, they say they're not coming anymore and that they're having a girls night and that we should have a guys night. I rang my girlfriend a few times saying i really wanted to see her and that i would drive down, she said no just have a guys night, i got a bit upset and hung up. I sent her a message later on explaining what happened from my point of view, that they made plans with us and suddenly ditched us and we began to argue. She told me i have to stop over-reacting and stuff. I finally flipped out and started explaining how i wanted more time for "us" and that we always had to do things in a group and i wanted to be able to wake up to a text or a message or something occasionally saying "hey wanna do something together today?" can't really remember what she said but we argued a little more. Planned to go over her house a few days later, finally getting some time for "us" but instead, she dumped me. It's been 2 months since then, she hasn't tried to initiate contact with me at all. I've tried apologising, saying i know where i went wrong and that we could work something out but she hasn't shown any interest. I was finally moving on, untill the other night when i got drunk at a party and started having a go at my best friend (he likes my ex now) and apparently it really upset my ex. I don't know what to do. It appeared that she didn't want to be in a relationship with me and me finally flipping out and pushing her towards the end, saying i wanted to do things together more often made her feel different about me, but my friends tell me that she said she really liked me because i was such a nice and sweet guy. What should i do, i want to move on in my head, i need to move on, it's just my heart is telling me differently because i liked her for so long. I don't know what i can do, she appears to have moved on and my best friend likes her now..Im such a mess, i've been pretty much NC for 6 weeks, exept i texted her congratulating on her license and apologised for deleting her off facebook. I saw her car today on the way to uni, i have no idea why but i got upset and i saw her cousin too, he just said "whats up big fella!" and gave me a friendly pat on the back, which upset me again.
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