blissfullyoblivious Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 to stop him leaving me? An article about a BS that no longer finds her spouse attractive but does not want him to leave her. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1370506/Should-I-let-husband-cheat-stop-leaving-me.html
whichwayisup Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Kind of like Hank_Tx's thread. He wants to cheat on his wife, has told her he is going to have an affair whether she likes it or not and he still plans on being married to her.
greengoddess Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 It is sad isn't it that some women are so desperate to keep their marriages that they would just ignore the cheating and let it happen. It's sad for the ow too. The wife doesn't care, let the ow have sex with him so he leaves her alone. The man continues to play his game of married and having fun on the side and the other woman is just a tool to keep the marriage trudging along. This man would probably leave for the the lack of love and sex in his marriage but now why should he? He has his wife for the kids and household and his ow for the sex and love. He gets two happy worlds making his world perfect while the wife and ow get ****.
bentnotbroken Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Being married is never going to be that important to me that I will lower MY standards to be with someone. I don't care if it is cheating, embezzlement of dealing drugs. I have to answer for the things that I look the other way on and know to be wrong. That is something I am not willing to face God on.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 to stop him leaving me? An article about a BS that no longer finds her spouse attractive but does not want him to leave her. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1370506/Should-I-let-husband-cheat-stop-leaving-me.html That wont stop him from leaving you, it will make him leave you faster. if you are like the woman in this article, you really should just end it so the both of you will be happier.
dreamingoftigers Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Jeez why bother being married if you care so little about where your husband's affections go? Seems so strange.....
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 to stop him leaving me? An article about a BS that no longer finds her spouse attractive but does not want him to leave her. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1370506/Should-I-let-husband-cheat-stop-leaving-me.html To me this sounds like he is cheating because the wife doesn't want him for anything more than a paycheck anyway. If you kick the dog enough it learns to stay away... eventually finds somewhere else to live. I would bet cash that this guy would have already divorced his wife if the laws were not created to just rape him afterwards.
tami-chan Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 It is sad isn't it that some women are so desperate to keep their marriages that they would just ignore the cheating and let it happen. Some are sad and some aren't. Some are perfectly ok ( like the woman in the article) with how the relationship has evolved. It is a matter of defining ( or re-defining) what the marriage means to the person-or what the H is to the person. It is sad to you because you are applying your own view of what marriage should always be. It's sad for the ow too. The wife doesn't care, let the ow have sex with him so he leaves her alone. The man continues to play his game of married and having fun on the side and the other woman is just a tool to keep the marriage trudging along. Again not sad for the OW, if she does not want a marriage but perhaps get all the emotional/sexual attention and to top it all off less or no guilt because the wife does not care....what's there to be sad about? It would only be sad, if she wants to be married to he MM. If everybody is ok with the arrangement then nobody is a "tool". This man would probably leave for the the lack of love and sex in his marriage but now why should he? He has his wife for the kids and household and his ow for the sex and love. He gets two happy worlds making his world perfect while the wife and ow get ****. If the need changes in any of the parties-if the dynamics would change-yes, then something/someone would call for something to happen or done differently....
jj33 Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Hey Blissful. As usual your posts resonate with me 1000%. That could have been xMMs W in that article if she was a few decades older.
Author blissfullyoblivious Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 Being married is never going to be that important to me that I will lower MY standards to be with someone. I don't care if it is cheating, embezzlement of dealing drugs. I have to answer for the things that I look the other way on and know to be wrong. That is something I am not willing to face God on. I like this. You make a great point without denigrating anyone.
Author blissfullyoblivious Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 To me this sounds like he is cheating because the wife doesn't want him for anything more than a paycheck anyway. If you kick the dog enough it learns to stay away... eventually finds somewhere else to live. I would bet cash that this guy would have already divorced his wife if the laws were not created to just rape him afterwards. Re the bolded...some people who are on the receiving end of "abuse" do not see it.
Author blissfullyoblivious Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 Hey Blissful. As usual your posts resonate with me 1000%. That could have been xMMs W in that article if she was a few decades older. I know you "get" it.
Author blissfullyoblivious Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 It is sad isn't it that some women are so desperate to keep their marriages that they would just ignore the cheating and let it happen. It's sad for the ow too. The wife doesn't care, let the ow have sex with him so he leaves her alone. The man continues to play his game of married and having fun on the side and the other woman is just a tool to keep the marriage trudging along. This man would probably leave for the the lack of love and sex in his marriage but now why should he? He has his wife for the kids and household and his ow for the sex and love. He gets two happy worlds making his world perfect while the wife and ow get ****. I don't know how you can extrapolate so much from this article. Wishful thinking, perhaps.
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