I have a problem. I can't move on. and I'm leading every other guy on

[DreamerGirl27]

I've got it bad. Really. Bad.

 

I've been in love with my friend for a little over a year now. I broke down and told him I had feelings one day (way too soon) and he told me he doesn't feel the same. I still have feelings anyway.

 

I've been talking to this other guy on this dating site and I think he's cute, but he doesn't hold a candle to the level of attractiveness I find in my friend. I'm just going with it (with this guy on this dating site), even though I'm not interested and I feel terrible about it.

 

I'm more attracted to my friend that I actually do like as a person, though... rather than just his appearance, even though I find him to be the hottest thing on the planet. I love everything about him. He's gorgeous to me and he literally is THE most gorgeous man on the planet to me. Every little new detail I find out about him just makes me love him even more.

 

In person, he's a total sweet heart and we look and act like a couple. To make matters worse, I never go to him, he always comes to me. He just posted twice on my facebook wall. He'll IM me constantly, etc. He invites me places and all that stuff as well.

 

This other guy that I've been pursuing online, I'm talking to him about meeting up with him, but I'm just not interested. It's like nobody can get me out of the house but my friend. I feel terrible, because I'm like, going for other guys out of fear that my friend will never come around and I'll wind up alone forever. But I don't like this other guy, he's just a cute guy, but I'm not interested. I'm trying to make myself be interested in other men and I just can't do it.

 

I don't know if I'm ever gonna get over my friend. I'm not even looking for a relationship anymore. It's not even what I want, even though I'm pursuing it and doing pretty well with it with every other guy but the one I want. It really wasn't what I wanted before I met him, either. It was sort of like, "I wasn't looking for anything and then you came along". He MAKES me want something serious.

 

He's always there for me...like I said, I never go to him. Right now, I want something more exclusive, though... and he's keeping me at bay as just a friend.

 

I feel like I'm not making sense anymore because both my head and my heart turns to mush when I think about him.

 

I'm like really...in love with this dude. He's only 22, though. I'm also only 26, neither one of us are ancient. I don't want anything serious, but I don't want anyone else, either.

 

I don't know what to do with myself other than just wallow in my misery of loving someone I can't have at the moment that I don't even want at the moment.

 

I just keep waiting and waiting for the day when he tells me he actually does like me or asks me to be his girlfriend. That's all I really want. I'm so attached to this guy.

 

He also brings up sex a lot and I've told him I'm not looking for FWB or a ONS and I've been very clear on that. I don't know if that's helping or hurting my chances, but I'm hoping it's helping, because it's honest. I'm too in love with him already and if I did a FWB I'd get seriously hurt.

 

Gah...being in love sucks monkey balls. lmao

 

I feel like he is my perfect match/soul mate, the whole thing, yet he just won't go there with me. I don't know what to do. All I wanna do is stay in the house and work on other life goals and completely ignore every other guy in the world who makes an attempt at anything with me unless it's this guy. That's honestly my plan and that's honestly what I'm probably gonna end up doing.

 

I might go out with this guy online, but I feel really bad about it. I feel like I'm leading him on. Like I said, he's my definition of cute and he seems more than interested, but I just can't go there. I can't get attached to anyone else.

 

Somebody smack me, I'm head over heels. :love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love:

 

I think I need to cool it on finding a boyfriend out of fear of being alone and just let what's happened happen. I like someone who doesn't like me back and it's gonna be that way for awhile.

 

I've done everything I can think of, I've pulled away for awhile, not logged online for 3 weeks. He texted me after 2 weeks.

 

I feel like letting go and giving up on every other guy and waiting for this one, but I don't know if I'm waiting for nothing, but it's all I wanna do.

 

Again...

 

I'm head over heels.

 

:love::love::love::love:

[nicedream]

Like you said, it's been less than a year. Maybe your "lover boy" will change his mind. But I definitely wouldn't become "friends with benefits" with him...because that is just a mess!

 

Regarding internet-boy, I don't think you are leading him on. It is probably a good idea to spend time with people other than the guy you have feelings for...to protect your own heart. I would recommend just dating casually. Like, go out on one or two dates with someone. If there is nothing there, just move on, and meet other people. Definitely don't start dating anyone just to make yourself feel better...that would be hurtful.

 

I would tell him (internet-boy) that you are not going to be dating anyone exclusively at this time. You don't have to divulge anymore information than that. That is not leading someone on...that's being honest while enjoying being single and free!