itsme2 Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 okay so i married very young(because of a pregnancy) and my husband is very religious. unfortunatly i had a miscarrage about 2 months after getting married. since then i thought my life was going alright for being a teen wife but then 3 yrs after getting married my husband decided that we were going to move to michigan(we live in florida) so he could help out a struguling church. it was a decision i was not a part of and one that i did not agree on but he decided to go ahead and move up there 6 months before i did(we had agreed that i would move up there after i finished that year of studies). he would call me every night but i was still bitter of him leaving me all alone. one day about 3 months after he left i started talking to a old crush of mine(it was a childhood crush that lasted from elementary to high school) and things just happend, i love the way he made me feel since we started the relationship with no future garauntees we both decided to just have some fun but then things changed i started to fall for him again(i say again because i had forgotten how i felt about him before) and i kno he started to feel the same but then my husband found out and so did everyone else. i obviously felt ashamed but deep down i didnt regret it :/. i decided to get a divorce from him because i didnt kno how i felt about him n didnt want to tie him down. i knew i loved him but i wasnt in love with him no more but since im still very young my parents didnt agree with it and told me to pack up my things and leave wid my husband to michigan because if i got a divorce they were not going to accept another man.(and it dosent help that they dont like the guy that i cheated on my husband with) so the point is i think about the guy EVERYDAY and even wen im wid my husband, we ended up moving back down to fl but now we fight for everything and i dont want to have sex with him because the only guy that turns me on and that i want to be with is my childhood crush. i kno i didnt wanna leave my hudband to get with that guy but i dont think its fair to be with my husband and think of someone else everyday. i need to kno if i should try things again wid my husband n try to forget the other guy n how he makes me feel or if i should leave my husband and try to start my life again even if its not with the other guy. wat should i do:(
cgannon Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 If you aren't in love with him, and you know that you don't love him, leave him and live your life. Don't torture the man any more than he is, and don't torture yourself any more than you are.
Woman In Blue Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Ugh - would you stop with the "wid" and the "wat?" It just makes people sound uneducated. If you're big enough to be married, you're big enough to talk like an adult. And why are you allowing your parents to tell you what to do? They tell you to stay in a bad marriage so you stay in a bad marriage? I think it's time to put your big girl pants on and do what you NEED to do, not what your parents TELL you to do.
greengoddess Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 You got married for all the wrong reasons so why stay married? Divorce him and live your life you are stil young. You don't want to have a child with him. Leave before that happens.
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 wat should i do:( Divorce. It's that simple. At your age it is a really easy process. You are too young to be married and contemplating a family!
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