fauxbraux Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Okay. My GF and I have been in this LDR for over a year with record breaking love commitment and dedication. A clear track record getting together at least every 3 or 4 months. For a whole year we have phoned...skyped....texted and e-mailed. We kept each other on the phone during our joys and enjoyments even while out with friends by phone and skype introducing each other to friends. We were such a part of each others lives. We still are very much a part but now my GF says she wants no cell activity while she is out with her group of friends. Always talking me before she goes out about 8:00pm and the she stays out talking to friends till 5:00am goes home. This is truth not unfaithfullness. She sleeps till 10:00 next morning then tells me all about her night that did not have a place for me to even call. I've never worn out my call welcome. She feels that now we are secure and i's a hassle now to be on the phone in public in any way. She only talks when home or in the car. Unlike the past year of always together by phone. She says that I am still top priority and her love is strong but says that she wasn't a phone person and has only been one due to me. She still spends daytime on the phone with me but doesn't feel we have to skype much anymore. What's up with her?
folieadeux Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Talking to your SO should never be a hastle. She obviously lost interest in the relationship at some point. If she's able to party all night for those hours and sleep 'til 10am the next day with any regularity, I'm gonna go ahead and assume you're both young. With that being said, voice your concerns. If she's unwilling to compromise, I would move on and not waste anymore time and find someone more suitable to your needs.
creighton0123 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Relationships must involve compromise. Figure out how to work with her to compromise on this point, otherwise one or both of you will feel resentment over missed expectations on your level of communication. She has a valid point: Talking on the phone while she is out with other people is inappropriate, rude, and dismissive to them. You have a valid point: You would like to hear from her, even if only for a short while, is beneficial to you. Perhaps you should bend on the phone if she bends on Skype/Video? Compromise.
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