mr.dream merchant Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 ..after being single for so long, you reach this point of.. tranquility? I dunno, been going through a kind of drought and well, recently I started really enjoying myself life again. At the highest point of general well being and attractiveness ever reached in my life and now it's starting to feel that way. I used to severely want that girl on my arm, but it's been that way for such a while now that I kind of forgot about it. But now that I've been feeling this way, there's this gut feeling I can't shake - that another woman is about to make her way into my life. Things always play out that way to. I'll go through what I call the now or never phase. A phase where I'm "thirsty" for a woman and her affection, but I can't seem to get it. Naturally, I get burned out and enter into my tranquility phase. Here I'm 100% content with the way things are and I can literally feel it showing through the way I carry myself. Right now I'm in that state, just cool and content with things. Not even stressing over a woman and it's obvious when I'm out with my friends, peace of mind and fun. I'm the guy who's got the Korona in his hand, joking and laughing with his boys, barely rubbernecking just taking in the moment and living. I just cannot shake the feeling that someone is headed my way. I hope it doesn't happwn too soon ya know? It seems I'm just now getting that single gentleman swagger back and it feels great.
Lilmisus Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Right before my ex and I started dating last year, I felt that same exact way, and I'm hoping the feeling comes back relatively soon. It feels absolutely amazing to know that you are able to be on your own and that you don't need someone else, and that you actually like and maybe prefer it that way. Last year (and while single), I had a nice amount of guys show interest and ask me out, but I just didn't feel it with any of them and preferred being single and being on my own. I took that time of "tranquility" to really, really look within myself though and decide if I was ready to date someone and bring someone else into my life. I would ask myself if I was satisfied with where I was in life and if I knew who I was enough so that I didn't need to date anyone to tell me or help me figure it out, or that they wouldn't get in the way of my dreams. The answer was yes, and before I knew it, Mr. now ex-boyfriend came into my life. I remember driving to work very soon before I met him (like a couple of days), looking at the bright, cloudless blue sky over the bridge I was taking, seeing it stretched out in front of me, and just feeling happy about being single and with who I was in life. Then..he was just..there, and I was even happier than I was before, but for just a whole new reason. Hopefully it will happen to you, and that this is a sign that you really are ready to be in another relationship, and that she's just around the corner. When you're so confident and happy with yourself, then you really are in a great place to be in a relationship, and that seems to be how you are right now. Even if you want to stay this way for a while more (which hey, that would be great as well), just keep your eyes open for her, because she could be anywhere . But enjoy this time with your boys and on your own, and just live it up.
Nexus One Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 (edited) It lasts only as long as you don't develop a crush on a woman. Enjoy it while it lasts, because it will come back in force and you will not be able to resist. Even if you fall out of the crush for whatever reason, then the foundation has been laid again for "the hunt". Edited March 28, 2011 by Nexus One
Author mr.dream merchant Posted March 28, 2011 Author Posted March 28, 2011 It lasts only as long as you don't develop a crush on a woman. Enjoy it while it lasts, because it will come back in force and you will not be able to resist. Even if you fall out of the crush for whatever reason, then the foundation has been laid again for "the hunt". The only way to put it is as if I'm a wild stag in the forest and a woman would be the hunter. Enjoying my life right now, without the presence of or longing for a woman. My mind is at peace now and it feels great. When the importance of landing a woman fades, it seems the mind is in a better place. Why am I surprised though? Who wants to constantly be forced to jump through all those small, minute, and ridiculous hoops that women hold up for their suitors? Not this guy, at least not anymore. Seems the more women complicate things, the more easy going I become. Easy going and complicated don't mix. And complicated is what women are when it comes to dating. Being easy going, you end up saying "**** it, I don't even care anymore dude!" and well, welcome to Euphoria. I think it's kind of hilarious. Spend all that time trying to find the one so you can be truely happy, but in the end you find true happiness because you chose give women in general the finger.
smudge21 Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Yeah, was in a great mood last year and I think that positive attitude really helped me when the current ex came along. She was well out of my league, but I was just so relaxed with life and not really looking for love, that we just hit it off. She felt comfortable around me as I did her. Sadly, as stated, she became the ex and I'm desperate to get that feeling of peace back into my life prior to meeting her. It was a short lived time with her, but it was great. I think when you're at peace with yourself and in a positive mindset, good things start to happen. But to get to that place, takes time and never comes from trying to force it or kid yourself that you're there. It just happens.
TouchedByViolet Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 (edited) I have always been a lone wolf at heart, a man who flies solo others may say. Not to say I don't play with others or socialize but I mostly prefer my thoughts and the world without others. It is, as you said, tranquil. Sadly as a 23 yearold man I think nature has created a genetic impulse for me to look for a mate. Not that this is inherently negative, but taking on a task that has so far only left me hurt makes me appreciate the tranquil feeling so much more. Edited March 28, 2011 by TouchedByViolet
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