2seeyou Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 It's been 2 weeks and my lover started texting me...I responded and we end up talking on the phone. She started the texts with" how goes it?" to "can I get my dvr player back" I point blank texted her and said "is this the only purpose of all your texts today?" She replied "no, I just want to be able to watch movies." I stated back to her, "I am giving you and me space right now. Getting your few items means contact" She responded, "no, just put it on the patio" Then, the phone started ringing. I answered,(WRONG MOVE) She started talking about giving false hope and she missed me but there would never be a sex/partnership; only friendhsip. I replied, that is fine because I could not be in initimate relationship with anyone at this point. She then stated "I want to be friends, you have a good soul and there is a reson we met." She said,"by the way, I put you back on FB." By the end of the convo, she said "I am going to keep a open heart about this and we'll see where fate takes us." I confirmed it with a "yes, destiny is not finsihed with us yet and good things are coming up in this new chapter." We joked, she said "I am tired and going to bed. Sweet dreams." and I responded Night, night. I am so confused...Help me please!!!
hunk Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Disappear. Flawless NC. Drop off the face of the planet. That's your only option. Seriously, she's told you there will never be sex or a partnership, only friendship. You don't want this, you shouldn't be compromising. There's nothing here she can give you anymore, so you have no reason to talk to her anymore. Just disappear and more than likely in a few months she'll drop you a line.
Author 2seeyou Posted March 28, 2011 Author Posted March 28, 2011 Just found out that my ex lied to me about being at a co-worker's funeral out of town. Instead, She was sleeping with a person over the weekend who hosted a party 2 weeks ago. She actually went there, hooked up with one of the hosts and wrecked any chances of that couple ever being together again. I can't believe that I cried over a person this whole weekend who could even fathom doing this to another couple. We were there to meet other couples to do things with...what kind of web is weaved, when one is deceived? I am totally baffled, confused, mad and feeling used.
1784 Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 From what I can tell, she is completely dictating the conversation. She talks about what SHE wants to talk about and completely ignores anything you have to say. She is in complete control. You do not need this nor do you want it. It is not good for you. She does not respect you. A relationship lacking respect will never work. Ever. Even if she DID decide to take you back you would lose your manhood every day, a little each day, for the rest of your life. In no time you would be a ball-less wonder. She's lying, she's sleeping around, breaking people up, making you miserable, etc. Consider yourself lucky that you got out of this now while you could. I know you're hurtin', bro, but you always have to look at the bright side. Yeah, it hurts but you'd be hurting WAY more later. Time to end your contact with her and move on to greener pastures.
Author 2seeyou Posted March 30, 2011 Author Posted March 30, 2011 1784, Thanks for the advice. I need to keep hearing this to let go of this woman. She is piece of work...I believe she could charm any person on this earth around her little pinky. I don't want these love eyes for her anymore. I go back and forth about nc. I still have her on FB because I want to see her fall and learn a lesson about wrecking homes.
Fufu Posted March 30, 2011 Posted March 30, 2011 Knowing the true side of this person is always a blessing in disguise. As what 1784 said, it's always good to know this sooner.....................than later. It is not longer a necessary for you to check on what she's doing or thinking anymore. Begin your healing, trust me, in time to come, you will look back and won't even feel a tinge of sadness.
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