butterfly2011 Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 So i posted earlier about my situation in which I told my man to leave and now I regret it. It was in the heat of an argument. He knows it too. He is just using it to his advantage to do whatever he wants to do and have no responsibility. The first day he was gone, he text me like five times...no call though. And I didn't respond....this was Thursday. By Friday I was a wreck and have been ever since. And yes I was texting him and calling him. He only answers some of the texts then drops off. I feel bad that I told him to leave and no this isn't the first time and he has left on his own before when he doesn't like something I say. It seems to have become our OUT. Do we want completely out? Some things he does bothers me to the core of my being but I love him. He changes like the wind. Not his feelings for me though. I know he loves me. I haven't text him or called him all afternoon. I read some posts where someone has gone with no contact for two weeks or two months. I think I would be sick after two weeks cause I stop eating when Im sad like this. Like Dolly said earlier I need to tell him that I will not conduct my relationship over text and that we should talk in person. I am really confused because I do love him but I also am thinking that some of the things I dont like about him might be deal breakers. I know that no one is perfect, but am i looking for him to be someone he is not? He used to want to be around all the time but that bothered me and now he loves being gone working on cars and motorcycles...yes he is a grease monkey. I can show up where he is at anytime and he would greet me with open arms which is nice, but he stopped spending as much time with me. I can ask and he will plan things with me but instead I just get frustrated and freak out. I know that is the worst way to communicate. He also lost his job a few weeks back. He is an electrician and the job ended. A two year job should be coming up in the next few weeks though. But I know and I forget to consider his feelings on not working. But I do have an issue.... he got his last paycheck and lied to me and said he put it in the bank. Well he cashed it. What did he do with that money? IF you aren't working and you don't know when you will go back, why would you put cash in your pocket? Money burns a hole in his pocket. He gave me some money the week before last but not as much as he used to cause of course he is not working. So what did his paycheck money get spent on? Im thinking he is buying car parts for his car he is building. He has tunnel vision when he starts a project that he enjoys. Still hasn't finished a bathroom project here at home that we started 2 months ago. OMG. He has just changed. it makes me sad. it has made me nag and that pushed him farther away. But still if you are not working, your money shouldnt be going towards a car that you are rebuilding.....family and home responsibility comes first. I feel taken advantage of. And this has not always been this way..... or has it? Am i being blind? Anyways, I appreciate this forum. It is helping so much whether I am answering my own questions or getting advice from you all. Thank you. I actually feel a little angry now after going back and reading what I wrote. He really cashed that check and it didn't go towards something important. WOW... how selfish, immature, and irresponsible is that? He expects me to pay for everything because he is out of work and thinking I would never fine out that he cashed that check. He looked me in the face and lied to me saying he put it in the bank. He told me has X amount of money in his account now, and stuck his tongue at me as if he was saying.... ha ha i deposited it and you thought I was going to spend it. I asked him if I could see the receipt and he said its in the car. I looked at his account and he didnt deposit anything. He did get a printed record of his balance though and that I know cause it charged his account a buck. Why did he lie? Trying to cope and thinking about all the reasons I was mad at him in the first place. He has no consideration for me or my feelings. No wonder I told him to leave. Im sick of him being immature.
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