celestica. Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 Found an old crush on a very useful social networking site, and I finally decided to add him after months of contemplating on whether or not it would make me look pathetic. For some background info on this, I had the hugest crush imaginable on this guy when I was in the 8th grade. I was a homely, and nerdish looking kid at that age, very shy, and had low self-esteem, but I liked him so much. Nothing came out of this, and I would question myself constantly on whether or not he liked me too. Sometimes it seemed like he did, I mean he wasn't disgusted with my presence and was always friendly and kidding around with me (I wasn't popular in school at that time!). He moved away from our neighborhood, and I swear my heart broke . I moved on in high school (after a few years of 'what ifs') and blossomed. I'm no longer the person I use to be. Well, back to now, I added him, and HE SENT ME A MESSAGE! I was extremely excited. I couldn't wrap my mind around this concept almost. He's back in this area and says that we should hang out sometime. I'm having trouble about what to do next. We exchanged numbers and I've texted him a few times, just attempting to feel him out, but he doesn't seem like he's big on stuff like that. What is the next step to take? I'm not sure if I should initiate the contact in person, or wait for him? I'm kind of lost. I know this seems simple, but ol complicated me is having a hard time about what this really means?
phineas Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 He's doing it right. The proper way for a man to text a woman he is interested in is to not text her all that often. It leads to the friend-zone if you do not know she has the hugest crush on you. Give him a few days & see what he does. He is trying to gauge your interest. He should call you & ask you to do something. If he doesn't, then he's doing it wrong. If he doesn't contact you, pick a day the following week & text "how about drinks X day" How old are you guys?
Author celestica. Posted March 28, 2011 Author Posted March 28, 2011 these games really give me whiplash whoooo, i guess im just afraid that he won't contact me to ask. i just don't want it to be uncomfortable when we do hang out, since it's been soooooo long since we've seen one another, so i figured i'd text to feel him out. it just isn't registering for me that he actually wants to hang out with me.
Lucky_One Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 If you have initiated text exchanges a few times, I would let him do the next one. It's his turn now.
Author celestica. Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 ok thanks i guess i will wait a few days, but if he doesnt get in contact with me ill contact him to initiate something.
allenmj Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 Ok, maybe it's because I've been married and divorced, and am now older than the average bear, but honestly, all theses little "who's turn is it to text first" games are chump. Stop them. If you're interested in seeking a possible relationship with this guy, text him, ask him out and make it clear what your intentions are. If you're just looking for a ONS or FWB then text him, ask him out and make it clear what your intentions are. Good luck.
Author celestica. Posted March 29, 2011 Author Posted March 29, 2011 you're right. i guess i just don't want to come off a certain way. sometimes, i can come off a little too strong, so i just want to seem normal as possible.
rightfield Posted March 29, 2011 Posted March 29, 2011 I agree with Allen. Personally, I've decided that I'm too old, and that life is too short for the her turn/my turn thing. If he doesn't contact you in a few, take the initiative. You want to look back on it later in life and know that you gave it your best shot. You don't want to look back and wonder about what might have been. Get busy livin!
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