Do you think people with kids have a better chance of getting back together?

[No_hope]

I am not trying to use my child as a tool to get back together.

But I am just curious... don't you think there is MORE of a chance of reconciling because you HAVE to have some form of contact?

 

My childs father is going through something in his life... he isn't telling me about, but he kinda tells his family (which in returns tells me) he dropped everything just one day. Right after Christmas he just ran away, he left me and our son for another woman and drugs. The other woman after 2 1/2 months left him, and he said he quit drugs, but there is proof he did not.

 

his family said I just need to leave him alone, and "let him grow up" shouldn't he of grown up 2 years ago when I got pregnant? But everyone is saying he will regret this because we did have a good relationship, and he really does love his son. He is just going through something right now..

 

but anyways, do you think people who have kids together have a better chance of getting back together?

 

we haven't talked in over a month, had have had very very very low contact for 3 months. we have talked a total for 3 times. (it was about our son).

[Jdw_Icequeen]

I have to say your story sounds alot like mine.. He just up and left me before thanksgiving. I don't know for sure if drugs were involved but do know that he has had a past history of it. I am not for sure if he left for another women but I think he was trying to get into some chicks pants at the time..

 

We have a son together and after him manipulating me sending me mixed signals doing nothing to help with finances or to pay for our son I got fed up. Its been a little over a month of NC and 4 months since the break up.

 

We did have a great relationship for a long time and I guess I would have thought that would have ment somthing to him.. I have heard nothing from him. I don't think its going to make it easier for us to ever have a chance in the future though. At one point I thought maybe. I suppose there is always the thought of "anything is possible".. But I am certainly not holding my breath at this point and time.

 

I don't think I will ever hear from him again at this point. Yes I was the one that told him never to contact me again, but I was pretty angry.

If he truly cared about me and his son he would have reached out in my opinion. He knew all the crap he was pulling was the reason why I told him to take a hike.. So even though you guys have a child together I would just say move on with yourself and take the best care of your child as you possibly can.. When all is said and done I would say we have the best part of them. Its there loss if they don't want to try and fix things, me and my ex really did have a good relationship.. It was definetly worth trying again.

 

If they also choose not to be in there childrens lives after all is said and done again thats there loss.. Even if they do trully ever regret it and realize they made a mistake, whos to say they would ever be men enough to admit it.. I know its hard, been very hard for me aswell but the children in the end will suffer the most if they choose never to be apart of their lives. All we can do is appriciate what we have and do the best for them.

 

Good luck too you..

[2010_Sorry]

...do you think people who have kids together have a better chance of getting back together?

 

Yes they do, but I believe it is for the wrong reasons. If it is a child(ren) that brings the wondering significant other back, then the relationship will face another bout of struggles once the child(ren) reach adulthood.